1:23 am Tuesday, 26th December, 2006
Hi there,
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11:26 am Saturday, 6th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsThanks to those of you who have rated my message. It´s nice to know that there are genuine people with integrity in the swinging network!
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9:59 pm Monday, 8th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsTough call without getting the sender of the invite to explain the thought behind it. I know that when a party with a theme is being organised, quite often the organiser has a visualisation of what they want from a design and artistic perspective to create a certain ambience. There is always someone who turns up at a fancy dess without entering into the spirit of it which for some takes that sheen off the evening.
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4:46 pm Monday, 8th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsHi there,
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10:44 pm Monday, 8th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsI think the thing here is that you aren't actually excluded. You have made the choice not to attend because you disagree with the dress code. It was an invitation and you are well within your rights not to accept it.
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11:49 am Thursday, 11th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging Clubs A lot of your points are very relevant and you´ve given me plenty of food for thought about this I guess I´ll just accept that this particular scenario is not for me and that not everybody sees the same significance in it as I do. Great to get some genuine dialogue going, though!
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11:01 pm Thursday, 11th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsIts been an absolute pleasure thinking about this. In one way its very very close to my heart as I have very strong views about equality and discrimination, however i'm always conscious that my views are not everyone elses views and that everyone has the right to express their opinions and desires.
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3:12 pm Saturday, 13th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsLikewise and thank you to you, too! |
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5:28 pm Monday, 15th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsI think Donatellos comments have been very much on the mark here. If there is a genuine (as opposed to? What are you wittering on about George) desire to create a look for the evening, a desire to attract and have displaying a group of people who conform to that desired ambience - yep, you have the choice to attend or not.
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2:09 pm Thursday, 1st February, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsYup, that dress code is blatently sexist, but then having to pay upto 200% more than females or just not being able to gain entry to a party while single as partnerless females are welcomed with open armstrouserstoybags is worse. At least you have the option eh x
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1:42 pm Tuesday, 30th January, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsI agree entirely!
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5:04 am Saturday, 3rd February, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsIt's just always been the case... well, at least since i started to hit the clubbing end of the swingfet scene in about 9900 that's been my experience. If I'm with a partner in crime, we stroll in for say £50 as a couple, same club, same promotion alone costs me anywhere between 30 and 45. Not so much at the big, "rave in fancy dress" type events, but at the serious ones with more play rooms and equipment than dancefloor and overpriced drinks, and especially events the likes of which started this thread, where the dress code not only guaranties an abundance of eyecandy for the boys, but also (i think) implies it's a night where male dominance is not only accepted, but expected to be norm that night (for a change?)
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8:53 am Wednesday, 7th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsNow just ask yourself, would you actually like to see men wearing lingerie?
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9:28 am Wednesday, 7th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsIt's just always been the case... well, at least since i started to hit the clubbing end of the swingfet scene in about 9900 that's been my experience. If I'm with a partner in crime, we stroll in for say £50 as a couple, same club, same promotion alone costs me anywhere between 30 and 45. Not so much at the big, "rave in fancy dress" type events, but at the serious ones with more play rooms and equipment than dancefloor and overpriced drinks, and especially events the likes of which started this thread, where the dress code not only guaranties an abundance of eyecandy for the boys, but also (i think) implies it's a night where male dominance is not only accepted, but expected to be norm that night (for a change?) |
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4:31 pm Wednesday, 7th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsI´m in total agreement with you on this one! Time people started to practise what they preach on the swinging scene! Very relevant post! |
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4:45 pm Wednesday, 7th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsIf you mean would l like to see men dressed in women´s lingerie then the answer is no, but that´s simply because it doesn´t do it for me, as an individual. If that´s their bag - fair enough!
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9:47 pm Wednesday, 7th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsInteresting thread.
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10:00 pm Thursday, 8th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsGreat post!
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7:35 am Friday, 9th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsAwesome post from swinginesp. Intellectualism making two aesthetically attractive people even more attractive.
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11:51 am Friday, 9th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsYet another great post. I´ll readily admit to having suspicions about the sexual integrity of some people I´ve encountered who would consider themselves swingers.
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10:09 pm Tuesday, 13th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsBlimey!
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10:13 pm Tuesday, 13th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsAnd.....ooooo...I love rugby...all those gorgeous legs and arses getting all muddy...and in rugby league the lovely short shorts......pphhwoooaarrr!!!! Pmsl!!!! Hehee
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5:02 pm Wednesday, 14th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsIts a game for fat kids that aren't blessed with ball control, skill, grace and vision.......football is the beautiful game.
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8:33 pm Wednesday, 14th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsVery good question!
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7:11 am Friday, 16th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsThats good to hear. Keep on throwing the topics in. Everyone should take a leaf out of your book Haven and when faced with a situation that seems slightly cloudier than the first impression it should be floated amongst others to get as many opinions as possible.
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6:47 pm Saturday, 17th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsHear! Hear! (Sorry, that´s a bit clost to the rugby bridage´s jargon, isn´t it?)
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7:11 pm Saturday, 17th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsHear! Hear! (Sorry, rugby brigade jargon, isn´t it?!)
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6:49 pm Monday, 19th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsIn 1943 Abraham Maslow wrote a paper called “A Theory of Human Motivation” which contained a psychological theory called ‘The Hierarchy of Needs’. He stated that as humans meet basic needs, they seek to satisfy successively higher needs that occupy a set hierarchy.
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11:02 am Tuesday, 20th March, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsMany thanks, Donatello. I mentioned this to the other half of Haven last night who tells me that anyone who has studied for an MBA or similar, as he has, is likely to have come across Masolw.
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3:28 pm Friday, 15th June, 2007
Re: Sexist Policies in Swinging Clubswe dont think this is fair at all, why cant my wife change there(if she wants 2)its not as if we would turn up in jeans and Tshirt. |
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3:12 pm Wednesday, 4th May, 2011
Re: ALL POSTS REGARDING "Sexist Policies in Swinging Clubs"Phew, okay, I woke up feeling quite bright and brainy, and now after reading all these posts feel like I never went to school or woke up. Maybe I should just read them again or get my hubby to read them later and explain it all to me? After all, I'm just a woman, or to many on this and other sites "a sex object" to be displayed used and shown at said clubs (joking!). |
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9:43 am Monday, 5th September, 2011
Sexist Policies in Swinging ClubsInteresting thread, and very good points made by Haven and Donatello. |