Continuation of Why Are We Here....
On this site, I have heard such a wide range of reasons for being here, and have also had an enormous range of reactions to my own situation. I'll tell my own story in more detail at another time, I think.
For me, personally, I don't understand the comment "I adore my partner, I just want more sex." I do try my best not to be judgemental, but (and here I show off my own notions of right and wrong, I'm sorry) I don't understand why anyone would risk love for sex. That, however, is none of my business, and to each his/her own.
I prefer meeting with single men. I am in the process of beginning my own life, and, though I am still married and have to (yes, have to) stay with him for the time being, in my mind I am single, too.
Why do married people cheat? Why is it that some of us are here looking for "more" ?? I am most certainly not able to speak for everyone, and would never attempt to explain others' reasons. I can only speak for myself.
My life with "Partner" (who flat out told me, "yes, we are partners, but that doesn't mean we are equal partners." Just a little indication of the amount of respect I find at home) has been anything but joyful. It's not just about sex for me, it's about communicating with men who see me as a worthwhile person.
Yes, this is NOT A DATING SITE. I didn't come on here to find anyone--in fact, I arrived by accident and found it fun, so stayed to chat. A positive by-product of my experience has been the Ones I've met here who have become very special to me.
I don't know if any of this makes sense. Bottom line is, judging people who are here based solely on the fact that they are married and looking for more can lead to a distorted perception of the reality of their situation.
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5:11 pm Sunday, 21st April, 2013
OK I admit it - I kinda follwed BBW to here, but having done so I read through the comments with great interest. More and more I find myself wondering if I should start my own blog - but then who would read it? Instead I will content myself with adding thoughs to others work!
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5:13 pm Sunday, 21st April, 2013
oo I love the automatic editorbot!!
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6:08 pm Sunday, 21st April, 2013
From my angle I started trying to replace what wasis missing from my relationship, but have yet to discover the happy medium between having friends and wanting more, but without hurting anyone or making the situation worse than it is at home. After all no one wants to cause unnecessary hurt do theyx |
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6:57 pm Sunday, 21st April, 2013
A Man - I know why I am here, well for one it keeps me out of the pub and two, there is a slight chance I might get laid - and yes we are all the same, so just love us the way we are! |
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7:15 pm Monday, 22nd April, 2013
Right ladies. Heres a thought from someone who has seen more than enough bad in this funny little world we live in. Stop feeling guilty. The deed was done the moment you stepped in and you all seem prepared to accept the consequence of things unravelling. My guess is that ypu all feel better for your experiences and as a consequence you are chirpier, more fulfilled and happeier in all sorts of ways. Now that, it seems to me is an entirely positive thing that radiates out to those around you who have no idea what you are up to.
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10:18 pm Tuesday, 23rd April, 2013
the reasons for being here are many and varied and like everyone else, they are my own and dont necesserally make sense even to me all the time.The reasons for staying are simple, im addicted and i have made a few friends who i would miss if i left. Two things i have learnt since i got here are to keep an open mind and tolerance for others... up to a point |
