I must admit it up front: I am not everyone's cup of tea. At 5' 8" and size 18, I am a far cry from a small woman. Or medium. Or, for that matter, large. Yes, I am extra large, and I'm OK with that.
One of the greatest things I have done for myself in the past year has been visiting a naturist spa where towels do little to hide my bumps and lumps. The first time out of a towel, I felt exposed and, yes indeed, open to the world. I found that people still chatted normally with me, and seemed to find me fun to be around. My body doesn't define who I am.
During this same time I have been chatting to and meeting with men from online here. And I have discovered something amazing (amazing to me, anyway, as I had always believed that Big = Ugly). Some men don't base attraction on size. Some men even prefer extra large women. What a shock.
There are, of course, those who prefer skinny women, or those of "average" size; we all have our preferences and ideal of beauty, after all. Despite knowing this, I was nonetheless shocked the first time someone told me outright that he wouldn't even chat with me because I was "too fat." Going on......
I find the statement, seen on profiles, "size unimportant" to be a big turn off. Maybe I'm reading it wrong, but to me this says "I'll shag anything." Instead, I much prefer "I appreciate all sizes."
I have never been shy about telling men my size. I don't want them to envision the petite woman of their dreams only to find that I am none of that. Even so, much to my surprise, many still want to meet.
Does size matter? I hear from men that a lot of women ask up front the size of a man's cock. As if this is the most important thing to base a future meet on.
Personally, I prefer big men...and by that I mean tall and heavier set. That being said, it's not the only thing I base attraction on, and certainly not what determines my final choice. I can only hope that the GOOD men out there are the same. I happen to think they are.
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6:39 pm Friday, 12th April, 2013
How refreshing to hear from another woman what us size 18s feel about others perception of us. I'm also put off by men that say age or size unimportant. I'm not necessarily looking for a life partner, however I don't want to be a faceless piece of meat to some mindless idiot. |
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10:32 pm Friday, 12th April, 2013
size means nothing, if you are clean and well kept. there are some larger ladies and men yes but they tend to be better kissers and lovers than the ones who are more bothered all the time about how they look. there is nothing sexier than kissing clean smooth ladies and mens parts and watching them writhe with pleasure as their juices flow. pounds don't matter when you get feedback like that. its very gratifying to see that you have made a person happy and not categorized as making a skinny fat person happy. i love people if they love their bodies as they are and more so if they want my attention. |
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7:37 am Saturday, 13th April, 2013
It opens a whole new question, is being sexy and feeling sexy one and the same thing. After all, isn't that the whole point, feeling good within oneself shines through to show others whats within:)xx |
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9:42 am Saturday, 13th April, 2013
Size, looks its all important especially when it comes to the women on here, your all shallow. |
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9:57 am Saturday, 13th April, 2013
i fully agree with destiny65, some men like only big women and some only like women who are 36-24-36 shapes, and like wise some women need a big cock and others need foreplay and sensual loving and are not bothered by size as only the first couple of inch are needed for satisfaction. its all in the mind and thank god everyones mind works different or the world would be full of mindless clones with 36-24-36 figures and 151mm long penises and all the same colour and shape. you would not be on here if everyone was the same? |
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12:52 pm Saturday, 13th April, 2013
The most important things are personality, humour and intelligence.They always come first with me and this is evidenced by the fact that two of the nicest ladies I know have commented on your blog. I'm proud to call them friends. |
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1:25 pm Saturday, 13th April, 2013
you do seem bit odd thought we just wanted fun and sex ! when lookin for long term partner of course size and looks not important , but lookly have that img src="imagesadultemoticons014.gif" but like her to have something nice too look at MFimg src="imagesadultemoticons021.gif" |
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3:00 pm Saturday, 13th April, 2013
Kelly Rowlands of Destinies Child and X factor got it right. "Size! let me tell you girl your Size is Size sexy that's what it is" |
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8:45 pm Saturday, 13th April, 2013
For me it is all about the grey matter inside your head that counts. There has to be a spark, something that makes a person stand out from the rest. I have met women of all different shapes and sizes over the years and had a lot of fun with them all however it has all started with the art of conversation and the ability to be lucid. That ticks a huge box for me. Every thing else that comes with it is a just a bonus. |
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11:04 pm Saturday, 13th April, 2013
only a few more words BennyKay79 you are giving the decent guys on this site a bad name, if you cant say owt nice say nowt. |
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12:05 am Sunday, 14th April, 2013
Lilithandedward, I completely am with you on the Steve Tyler fetish.... I think its because I just know he'd be awesome! |
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10:31 am Sunday, 14th April, 2013
Thanks, all, for the comments; what great feelback to hear!!! |
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10:52 am Sunday, 14th April, 2013
I agree with most of the comments on here , attraction and sexiness are not factors of size . But let me provide a bit of balance here . This is a sex site with people looking to fulfill fantasies . I come across a lot of good looking ladies and couples that essentially work to a looks and physical attributes based shopping list |
