Age is but a number and all that

As I'm a bit out on a limb these days with regard to UK 'newspeak', I admit to being baffled by the word 'keeper', which seems to have surfaced only in the last decade. I'd have thought 'keepee' would have been more accurate, but anyway that's just by and by.......

This topic is always good for a re-airing. I can completely understand your rationale for enjoying the company of someone who has been only halfway round the block rather than several times :-) Over the last few years, it seems to have worked out that women I dated were at least 10 years younger than myself, but in fact it's not a reflection of any age preference - merely aesthetics. I'd be the first to admit that I'm looking more and more like the Portrait of Dorian Gray, and that as a result I'm beginning to get a higher proportion of 'Aw Jeezus !!.......' responses followed by silence whenever I send face pics to prospective dates (lol). Therefore you'd probably think that I ought to be adjusting my expectations on this site accordingly. Not a bit of it. For some reason I'm still holding out for ladies who match my physical desirability criteria. I'd gladly date women in my own age group, but for some perverse reason the majority who show most interest resemble my great aunt Gladys (or at least what I remember of her when I was in my 20s). Yes I have met some really attractive women in the 45-55 range, but they seem to be like gold dust. I know this sounds as though I'm the pot calling the kettle black, but it's an attitude I have a problem shaking off. Maybe I need a few more years to develop liver cirrhosis and incipient dementia before I'm forced to be more 'realistic' :-)

I've never been able to understand the 'no younger than my kids' rule, which seems to be a sort of half-reluctant nod to lofty moralization :-) As long as they are actually *not* my kids, I can't see the harm if both parties are happy. Having said that, when you start talking about gals in their mid 20s or younger, there *is* the problem of a mental age gap which is too great to span. I'm reminded here of that Steely Dan track 'Hey Nineteen' :-) So there is always that conundrum of balancing mental maturity with physical attractiveness. It *is* possible to get both if you're lucky, but my hypothesis is that if a woman of a certain age is forced to choose between brain and youthful brawn in a man, despite lip service to the contrary, she'll invariably jump on the 'hunky bus'. Likewise with myself, if - for some inexplicable reason - a younger more attractive woman makes herself available, I'm not going to kick her out if she doesn't know who 'Reetha Franklin is :-)

It really comes down to whatever precepts you start with, life has a habit of changing them. When the spark happens, you have no control. Go with it. Otherwise you will always regret not knowing if...... Let others think what they will, if you are 'right' that's all there is to it.

Hello Aphrodite. I lost my virginity when in my mid-teens to a lady who was twelve years my senior when she seduced me. I must confess that,apart from knowing what went where, I was pretty clueless but thoroughly enjoyed the experience,nevertheless. I have oft times over the years,pondered the " raison d'etre " for this lady taking her pleasure from an innocent lad whose only " life landmarks " till then had been success in O levels and scoring my maiden century.
Was it
a) a prediliction for young lads ? ( I was as fit as a fiddle then )
b) Her seeing it as her mission in life to break young lads in ?
c) was she simply just in need of a fuck ?
Anyway,it set me on the right road and I can't say which I enjoyed more. Her teaching me the ways of the flesh or the encounter which followed shortly thereafter with a girl of my own age ( sixteen ) where the exhuberance and enthusiasm of youth carried us both away to the exclusion of any thoughts about sexual technique.
Perhaps I was lucky enough to have the ideal combination for my first two times.
What do you think ?

EG,
I have quandered this subject many times before.
Approximately ten years either way was my limit, give or take...no idea why?
Moral, physical?? Just no rhyme or reason..
Being on this site has changed my perception totally..
So if a younger lady finds me attractive..so what...
Ok, she really should be sectioned, but even those with personal psychological issues still deserve to be sexually satisfied..
In any case, i will chat to my victim before to see if there is any connections cos for me that is the be all and end all..
If i am not attrcted to someone through a connection, which doesn't have to be physical but a general "getting along" and being able to chat freely and comfortably, then sex would just be a meaningless act.

Fetch,
Great post but what is it with you and the word lady this site does not like???
Cos at the moment you lost your virginity in your mid teens to a lad***...
Still, makes me chuckle every time.

"No one is looking for disappointment"

I think that sums it up, really. You could argue that forking out for a membership here is a bit like buying a lottery ticket. You're buying into a dream, which just might come true (and for me it has turned out to be a better investment than the lottery, which so far has landed me sod all :-) I'm not really looking for great aunt Gladys here. I'm banking on the occasional jackpot that reaffirms how great it is to be alive. I could pop down to the pub and ogle the local scrubbers, but I'm not here for that.

Welcum. I don't know why there is this vendetta against me using the word you mentioned. Maybe they don't understand the concept of respect. It may force me to use the words... women,girls, females etc in future.Rest assured ,I shall not stoop to descriptions of the fairer sex which denigrate them in any way,I am scared of the consequences which Chrissie's evil sister may visit upon me...than bang goes my free holiday at Waikiki Beach !

"the last couple of days the blogs are getting better again"

All it needs is a spark and a bit of tinder. The 33rd re-run of "My butt plug training" doesn't exactly inspire :-)

"i think she can be my daughter"

But the chances are.....she isn't :-) Although admittedly rare, some very young women really *do* like considerably older men. It's very special when it happens, but I don't consciously go looking for them. It tends to be them who do the "stalking", so my "conscience" (if I still have one) is clear :-)

Skebbie---there goes my next blog topic down the drain then. "Shaved or Smooth" it is.

And thanks for the comments, all.

EG,
Its good to recycle....

EG: Don't let me hold you back. Go for it (whatever it was.....) :-)

My rule is simple only one rule we must be legal I don't care how old or how young as long as we all enjoy I do have a problem dealing with some of the younger ones out of the bed which leads to me to say no thank you, one thing I can say I am not young by age and have never had a complaint in saying that I do get picked for someone a lot younger than I am which I believe is due to my mind set, I remember when I was 20 thinking 25 was old then at 25, 30 was old, and so on now I am over 50 I look back and laugh as I still feel like I am 25 nothing much has changed apart from one thing I can't drink like I am 25 years old which most likely is a good thing :-) the point is if you look after yourself think young have fun like your young then you are still young and re topic of being shaved or smoth it always needs and must be smooth cheers Mark

Guys, older or younger? I asked this myself so many times. At the beginning, I thought no way I would ever be with someone too young or defo too old....Now, I think as Open has mentioned, there are men who are 40 and behave worse than adolescents and young men who are very mature for their years.

The cliche "age is just a number" is not really a cliche. I like to think maturity, interest, connection, etc comes into play when deciding to have a relationship. Therefore, if it feels good and right why not? However, what happens when you decide to just share a night? Can you really be that strict and apply the same rules?

In my case, as Welcum has mentioned I have like a set clock...10 years in both directions...Why? No idea, I guess a sense of peace of mind. BTW, kisses to all, great blog and missed you! :)

Well each to their own of course, but personally I don't entertain anyone younger than my kids, simply because younger for me would be like saying I need to be reassured that I'm still attractive and am denying the onset of old age, and as we all know the older you get the body isn't in sync with the brain (for most anyway) I would hate to feel that I am just a desperate handy screw for someone, besides the fact I don't do one nighter's anyway, because the attraction for me isn't just the body its their mind as well...if we are on the same level, same sense of humour, he can make me laugh etc. Younger for me are immature in their experience of life, and till they have experienced all there is to experience we are not going to be on the same level. I mean a 25 yr old and a 50 year old what on earth do they have in common? Apart from the woman knowing what she wants and perhaps teaching them...that's not for me, I don't want to have to teach or tell, I want someone with experience of what makes a woman tick, and younger for me just cant do that...they may think they can but they cant.You only have to read some of the witterings in the chat rooms, when they are told no thanks your too young they get arsey and show their true age. No thanks not for me

Naturally it's in the interests of middle-aged men to assure younger women they don't know what they're missing :-) While recognizing that we all age at different rates and that some people are more motivated about exercise or spare eating than others, I have to concede that there is a tendency for younger women to tar all middle-aged men with the same brush, i.e. "how could a bloke 20 years older than me possibly keep up in bed ??" In all modesty, I've found this attitude to be misplaced (haha) - at least in my experience. Unless of course all the younger women I met constituted a subpopulation who were pathologically sluggish (lol).

I think it's got less to do with "energy" and more to do with "aesthetics" and "mindset". Most younger women don't want to see wrinkles from close proximity, and even fit middle-aged men have wrinkles and saggy bits. Also they want to talk about hip-hop and rap, and aren't interested in Deep Purple......or Gilbert and Sullivan for that matter :-) Most wouldn't want to introduce a BF who looks like their Dad. And yet........some are indeed sufficiently open minded to overlook the ikky bits in favour of the ....er.... "advantages".

Life stage is also a big factor, as Paolo states. Young women have higher expectations, and there's more at stake for them. They're more "high maintenance" and in some ways too idealistic. In the end, such idealism can only be met by a partner in the same age group. But experimenting with partners of various ages is surely a rite of sexual passage. Life would indeed be boring if we remained stuck in the same age rut.

Well I have read those blogs and realise that a poor old fellow like me should give up on this site (and any other) and creep off to die! Sad since I am very fit and on the cricket fiefd can outrun most thirty years younger than me and my old friend todger still works very well indeed. Prepare to meet my doom seems the message! img src="imagesadultemoticons013.gif"

If you alter that to "prepare to meet thy dom", I guarantee your fortunes will change :-)

Absolutely right, age is but a number, it's the connection that I crave, the little things that you find in someone, that peaks your interest, and wanting to know more.