Etiquette and women sticking together

No, you are right EG. I might drool from a distance, but I would never try to cut in on someone a friend of mine was interested in, however early in their relationship it might be. I think that's part of being a friend isn't it?

Thanks for the reassurance that I'm not way out there on feeling this way.

I don't know if she's interested in him or not, if they're chatting, planning a meet or simply on each other's friend's list. The fact that they became "friends" on here AFTER I told her about him is what bothers me....it's simply the fact that it's there....her now liking his profile, etc.

I'm not worried that he'll like her over me (LOL, aren't I the greatest???). If that happens, it does, but just in an uncomfortable spot with her right now. I wish she'd return my texts! It makes me wonder why she's not?

Just know I am gonna get some stick for this, but here goes......
If you were speaking, as in real life off site, or if you knew the friend concerned off site before joining, I would be all for confronting her, and asking, why she did it, and why she didn't poach the subject with you 1st.....
However, and from comments above, I am clearly in the minority here, but, however well I get on with someone on site, I am afraid they are not the same as friendships I have with girlfriends I have known off site for years ( and yes before anyone mentions it, I know that I do not confied this lifestyle to offsite friends, but we all have secrets), maybe I feel this way because I am on here as a couple, but unless you have actually formed a relationship with a guy on here, and your friend is aware of that ( which if she was a good friend one would assume you had told her), no one on here owes anyone anything, and the kind of thing you are talking about reminds me of the do or die friendships we have when we are teens, where no one messes with a guy you fancy, or dates your ex, and I would assume we had all moved on from that....

Funny that isnt it?? Some folks I know well and I am really chuffed for them that they are having fun, but one or two definitely got a little under my skin and whilst it took but a nanosecond to rationalise the fact that they were swingers too there was nontheless a teensy little pang.

Sometimes it does get quite dodgy though - I once got tangled up in a green-eyed scenario where two ladies on here both had the hots for a chap (not me I hasten to add). Luckily (for me anyway) I came to be something of a go-between and some time later the three of us met up on neutral ground to lay the ghost and set things right between them.

I say luckily because it was me that got laid by the pair of them. In the long run both ladies left here (for other reasons not the spat) and I would love to say that the wounds were healed, but they were not.

So the moral is that even here where NSA is king, chemistry still happens and its worth bearing that in mind.

PROBLEM CLEARED UP. I have finally spoken to my friend, and it's all innocent and all's fine, thank god. I feel so bad now for having doubted her. In reality (as my insecurities show here), it's best to find out more info before assuming the worst.

Still I think the original premise of this blog is correct, though. Do we or do we not owe something to the friends me make here? I think we do. Friends are friends, after all.

Micheal...it is jealousy, plain and simple, even though, I hasten to add, there is no cause to be jealous at this point. The truth is, he has many friends, some of them mutual. I guess I need to take this as a slap on the wrist (or maybe face), apologize to my friend for having doubted her, and get on with being an adult.