So it happens...we are mutual friends with the same people, of course it happens all the time.
Nonetheless, the green eyed monster still appears from time to time.
I just noticed that a gf friend of mine is now friends with someone I'm interested in. Two days after I told her how great he is. Is this just jealousy??? or has an unspoken rule been breached?
Of course, they are both free to chat with and meet whoever they want, but in my mind, if I know a friend is interested in someone, that is my cue to BACK OFF. Maybe not all women see it the same way. (Note to women: if you want me to leave your man alone, become friends with me!!!)
Is there an unspoken etiquette rule here that I'm making up in my own head? Thoughts and comments appreciated.
3:20 pm Saturday, 21st September, 2013
No, you are right EG. I might drool from a distance, but I would never try to cut in on someone a friend of mine was interested in, however early in their relationship it might be. I think that's part of being a friend isn't it? |
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3:47 pm Saturday, 21st September, 2013
Thanks for the reassurance that I'm not way out there on feeling this way. |
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4:17 pm Saturday, 21st September, 2013
Just know I am gonna get some stick for this, but here goes...... |
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5:45 pm Saturday, 21st September, 2013
Funny that isnt it?? Some folks I know well and I am really chuffed for them that they are having fun, but one or two definitely got a little under my skin and whilst it took but a nanosecond to rationalise the fact that they were swingers too there was nontheless a teensy little pang.
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5:58 pm Saturday, 21st September, 2013
PROBLEM CLEARED UP. I have finally spoken to my friend, and it's all innocent and all's fine, thank god. I feel so bad now for having doubted her. In reality (as my insecurities show here), it's best to find out more info before assuming the worst. |
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6:02 pm Saturday, 21st September, 2013
Micheal...it is jealousy, plain and simple, even though, I hasten to add, there is no cause to be jealous at this point. The truth is, he has many friends, some of them mutual. I guess I need to take this as a slap on the wrist (or maybe face), apologize to my friend for having doubted her, and get on with being an adult. |