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Married, but disillusioned.

Swinger tra40d (Male) from UK, Witham

I’m married, and have been for many years to a woman who has lost interest in sex, if she ever was. It got me two wonderful children, though, so I am lucky in that respect.
I know that sex is not the only thing in a relationship, but it should figure somewhere, along with warmth and cuddles.
Men are said to think about it once every 7 seconds, women nowhere near as frequently, only about once every 11 seconds.
Being on this site has shown me that there might be women out there that actually like sex, almost as much as men!

I work as a Lecturer in a College in Essex, teaching Engineering subjects, so no female colleagues or students, and very few female support staff.
I realise that this is too negative, but I feel quite low at the moment and joined this site to chat to someone with other than a male outlook on life, etc.

The nearest I get to fun is when I take photos, usually portraits, of willing volunteers. Photography is my hobby in the rare moments of spare time.
Not wishing to be rude, but when I see a poorly taken picture in someone’s profile, I ache to be able to do better for the lady, and help her look her best.

I also like to relax away from the noise and turmoil of everyday life, so I escape most weekends to a small caravan near the Dorset coast some 200 miles away from where I live, to listen to the birds and stare at the sea, etc but of course the journey back home spoils it a bit.

When I get the chance, I often read Science Fiction. Larry Niven is a favourite, and more recently Tom Holt, who writes more Fantasy and is quite funny with it.
Don’t laugh, but I have also read a few of the “Black Lace” lesbian erotica books, partly because its the nearest thing to sexual excitement I’m likely to get, but also to gain an insight into what women want.
I’ve often heard it said that even “straight” women like to go with other women, ‘because women know what women want’.
Well, surely, if a man can learn, then he can please women too?
If I ever get the chance, that is!

WHOM I'M LOOKING FOR
Am I any clearer about what I want?

A serious relationship is not realistically on the cards with someone my age and appearance, and anyway I wouldn’t cheat on anyone or try to deceive anyone, it’s not in my nature. What I want is to correspond and or flirt with women and engage in intelligent (or cheeky) conversation, conversations about everything or nothing, different views and perspectives, profound or trivial. I don’t care, I just like people and want to explore the world with them.
My working life is very male oriented, and I need a different slant on life, and of course I like to have fun where possible.
Often in profiles I see mentioned “erotic massage”. What is it?
Also, I have not indulged in erotic chat or text, and I think that I might like to. Any offers?
It’s safe, and won’t harm anyone!

Seeking Female


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tra40d Personal Details
Gender Male
Age 80
Location UK, England: Essex, Witham
🌈 Sexuality Straight
🌎 Ethnicity White / Caucasian
🚬 Smoke No
🍷 Drink Socially
💊 Drugs No
🛡️ Safe Sex Always
🏠 Meet At Your place
📏 Height 5ft 11in (180 cm)
⌛ Body Type Big & Beautiful
👱 Hair Colour Dark Brown
🦵 Body hair Smooth