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Attractive, successful, sexy, funny, sweet, romantic & submissive male seeks

Swinger shadesofgreymatter (Male) from USA, San Ramon

I'm an Alpha male in the vanilla world and prefer to be submissive in the bedroom. Successful in everything in life except finding a partner who not only accepts and appreciates my kinks (and I hers) but who wants to explore the BDSMkink world with me. That said, please be aware that I'm not interested in "hook ups". I want to develop a relationship with my partner and am a one woman kind of guy. That doesn't mean that I am not open to others eventually participating in our play but I would like to simply focus on developing true intimacy with my partner where I understand and can focus on fulfilling her needsfantasies, before we introduce others into the mix.

I'm romantic, the kind of guy that will regularly surprise the woman I care about with a dozen roses, just to remind her how much I appreciate her. I never want her to feel like I take her for granted. I get how tough it is to find that person so when I find her, she's going to know how immensely happy I am to have her in my life! She's going to know that she rocks my world and that I think she is the sexiest being walking the face of the planet.

I'm a Pleaser which means I get way more out of getting my partner off. Nothing excites me more than being the source of my partner's orgasm. I especially love everything oral, from long passionate kisses to making my partner "go" using my tongue.

I'm fun, adventurous and tend to be the life of the party. I workout 5-6 days a week and am in great shape. I'm a jock on the exterior and a geek on the interior (BS in Engineering), don't tell anyone! I have a very high sex drive and if the chemistry with my partner is right, my body responds with an insatiable sexual appetite.

I firmly believe that life is way too short to be vanilla all of the time. Although I love to simply have spontaneous sex, I also love the world of kink and BDSM. I have lots of BDSM experience as both Dom and sub and have very few limits. I also very much enjoy the visuals associated with BDSM play and fetishism including the two of us "dressing the part". I love to shop with my play partner and buy her (and myself) kinky outfits for our play.

As mentioned, I am also a switch so if you are not a Domme or don't want to be full time that's ok. The role I play in kinkBDSM play is less important to me than actually being with someone who knows I'm kinky, accepts and appreciates me for it and she simply wants to explore with me!

I should also mention that I have a thing for leather (and latex), if you want me to be putty in your hands, wear some black leather and I will melt to your will!

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Note: If you are a Professional Domme that is not open to falling for one of your clients (i. e. me) or if you reside outside of California and don't travel here regularly, please don't contact me. I truly appreciate your interest but I am looking to develop a relationship with my play partner and neither situation is conducive to doing so. Thank you for your understanding.
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My Ideal Person Smart, sophisticated and independent. She takes care of herself and is fit. She has a healthy libido and a desire to explore the world of kink and bdsm. She longs for a man who is passionate about her, who wants to spoil her and worship every inch of her body. My perfect match also likes to take control in the bedroom and wants a man to fulfill her every desire. If she also enjoys wearing leather and latex then she is my proverbial "needle in a haystack! "

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shadesofgreymatter Personal Details
Gender Male
Age 49
Location USA, California, San Ramon
🌈 Sexuality Straight
🌎 Ethnicity White / Caucasian
🚬 Smoke No
🍷 Drink Socially
🛡️ Safe Sex Always
📏 Height 5ft 11in (180 cm)
⌛ Body Type Athletic
👱 Hair Colour Light Brown
🦵 Body hair Shaved
Friends Dowutisaywenisay 

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