Honesty, openness and communication - that's what it's all about right? That's what I expect from my sub, so I should probably make sure I do the same. So here's a bunch of stuff about me, my likes dislikes and who what I'm looking for (not exactly sugar coated is it? )
I want a LTR with my very special sub, girlfriend, slave and, eventually, best friend and wife. I'm quite private and don't like to talk about the kinky side of things with anyone other than my sub, so it's something that would, in general, be maintained only between the two of us. I don't want a doormat - I respect your opinions and want to hear your thoughts, but you should know that what I say goes. I would hope you agree with me most of the time though! You should be able to continue with most of your hobbies, friends, outings etc. as well as join in mine as my girlfriend, while knowing that you belong to me and will gladly halt any of them for as long as necessary if I so desire.
I'm single, in the UK, in a lovely part of North Wales. I have a good job (enough to maintain 2 of us comfortably) and house and I don't really have any intention of moving. Having said that, I wouldn't say moving is out of the question but I'd certainly prefer my sub to move in with me here. Online is fine for a little while if you feel you want to build some trust, but sooner or later I'll want to meet - so you should too.
I'm about 5'10' tall, slim, black hair, usually with somewhere between stubble and a short beard. No children or other baggage. I'll happily exchange pictures privately. I'm very patient with people that deserve it
There are plenty of kinks listed, but it's not obvious from that which are most important. So here's mine:
Things I know I want from my girl (vaguely in order of importance to me) but it's not like I expect everything to be there from day one:
A natural female sub (I'm straight). You might be straight or bi, but should prefer a male Dom.
A submissive girl who genuinely wants to be submissive, but who can tell the difference between fantasy and reality, unfeasibility and practicality.
A loving relationship.
Trustworthy. It might not be immediately obvious that I need to trust you maybe more than you need to trust me (feel free to pick me up on that! )
A fit and healthy girl (both mentally and physically). I will expect a lot from you and you'll need to be able to manage.
Servitude. I want a sub who wants to serve. The 1950s housewife (ie domestic servitude) is a good starting point, but it's not an exact science. There's a bit of secretary PA in there along with entertainer, dancer, kisser, cocksucker, masseuse. You'll need the ability to get things done, but also to ask for help when needed.
Obedience. When I say something needs doing I expect it done, I expect it done correctly and I expect it done in a timely manner to my standards.
Boobs - there's no point sugar coating it. I like boobs. I like them big enough to hold. I like to grope, fondle, pinch, kiss, bite, clamp, squeeze, hurt, slap, flick and tickle them.
I like girls with long hair on their head, but smooth everywhere else!
Masochistic, at least to a point. I like watching you squirm while I hurt you, pull your hair, spank you, put pegs on you. But no permanent damage (see below)
Collars and gags - there's nothing quite like a girl in a big thick collar and a ballgag that barely fits.
No baggage (well, everyone accumulates _some_ baggage simply by being alive. Just so long as it doesn't affect our relationship).
Some experience would be desireable, but not essential if you are really serious and prepared to put the effort it. Full training will be given (at what point does this start to sound like a job interview? )
Dress up - I want to be able to choose outfits (yes, I'll buy you lots of sexy clothes - if you earn it) or just simply have you naked for me. I like catsuits, high heels, corsets, lingerie, maids, nurses, gym kit, stockings to name a few.
Toys - vibrators and how they make you feel just make me smile, especially when I deny you.
Cuddles, hugs and kisses at times (like watching a box set on TV) or with kneeling at my feet or maintaining slave positions at other times.
Covert outdoor bdsm - as mentioned before I don't want to publicise to the world I'm a Dominant, but I want my sub to know it whenever possible :)
Occasional petplay (ponygirls just look sexy)
Bondage - I like tying you up, so flexibility and stamina will be helpful, but obedience is more important to me.
Trainable (perhaps malleable is a better word)
Objectification.
Things I think I want, but I'm open to being proven wrong :)
A girl who is shorter than me, preferably even while wearing heels (which I hope will be a lot of the time! )
A monagamous relationship (although I'm open to the possibility of occasional extra partners now and then I tried a poly relationship once and it really didn't suit me).
Someone younger than me (I'm 38) but old enough to know what she wants.
Marmite :)
Things I'm not particularly interested in, but I'm prepared to be proven wrong (shock horror - a Dom who doesn't know everything! )
Munches
Tattoos or piercings (maybe ears are ok) or branding. Small discreet tattoos maybe, but I prefer the plain natural look. Less is more when it comes to makeup or hair dye.
Daddy Dom. OK, I like to call you 'my good girl' when you do particularly well but I'm not much interested in age play.
Anal sex. While I like the idea of you wearing a butt plug (maybe with a furry tail) on occasion I'm otherwise not too bothered about the anus.
Coffee - Not my favourite drink and frankly it doesn't do you any good. And my sub will give up things that don't do her any good.
Dogs. I'm more of a cat person :) Although I don't have any pets at the moment.
Things I know I don't want:
Anything illegal. That includes children, drugs, animals etc.
Scat.
Abuse. I will not tolerate abuse - it makes me sick to my stomach. If something isn't right I expect you to tell me (via safe words or any other means). Even if you consent to something but it turns out, for whatever reason, you genuinely want it to stop then I need to know and I need to know now.
Smoking. Hate the smell. Hate everything about it.
A switch - I'm looking for a sub slave.
Alcohol. I'm not interested in it. I don't mind if you have the occasional drink but if it's something you need to have fun or to get through the week then I'll be expecting you to give it up.
To cause any serious or permanent injuries.
Punishment - Yes, I don't like giving punishment. Sure I like tying you up, spanking you and forcing you to your knees by your hair. But you'll enjoy that so that's not punishment is it? I'm talking actual punishment because of deliberate failure or disobedience. I don't want a brat who needs to be made to do things, I want someone who genuinely enjoys doing things for me to the very best of her ability. Sure there will need to be training and correction, but the 'punishment' in that case shouldn't need to be more than constructive criticism.
Seeking Female
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| Gender | Male | |
| Age | 46 | |
| Location | UK, Wales: Gwynedd, Gwynedd, Llandudno Junction | |
| 🌈 Sexuality | Straight | |
