Please reply to your mail

Before i start i would like to thank the few who have bothered to reply to my mail, thank you. Now this is how it is supposed to work, you submit your profile, i reply to your profile then you either have 2 choices, yes or no, simples. Then why do i have over 20 unanswered mail, some people even check out my profile but dont read the mail, whats the deal. If you put out a profile you expect people to answer your call, when you receive the mail it is your responsibility to reply, if "yes" say yes if "no" say no. I dont expect a list of reasons why you dont want to see me, in fact you can simply press the "polite No" button. Myself and probably other sgl males have enough emotional intelligence to be able to handle rejection, so give the sgl guys a hand and reply to their mail, thank you.

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I can't speak about why you may not be getting replies, but I can say that we've gotten several messages that were either rude andor so in your face that they did not deserve a reply. Senders that obviously do not take the time to read a profile before sending in my opinion do not always deserve a reply either (why should I take time to communicate with someone who cannot read?).

So your premise that the recipient of a message has only two choices - yesno is flawed. The delete and blacklist keys are also very real options.

All the best,

C&T

RE:Picture

Hi, yes you are correct i am in the process of fixing this, thanks

RE:Please reply to your mail

Same here, thoroughly support your post. Previously on here with another user name and loads of unanswered mail.

Desperation strikes...

Meh... There is no entitlement to a reply, such arrogance! People can either reply or not, if they don't well really its tough. Think of it as fishing, bait your line and see what bites lol

reasons why i don't reply...

1. Your message is obviously 'copy and paste', and is clear its been sent out to many

2. Its been sent late on a saturday night etc, and has no feeling of being genuine about it

3. It doesnt refer to my profile... just a catch-all bland blah that I have no way of building a rapport with

4. You dont meet my profile needs - if you can't read my profile, then you're not my kind of person.

5. You're from overseas - i.e. you didnt read my profile!

6. No pics on your profile and 'ill tell you later' in the profile description... Again if that's too difficult for you, then you're not my kind of person


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Interesting that all the posts against your arguement are by women, and all the posts supporting you are by men. Nothing really surprising there then. I agree that offensive and inappropriate mail should be ignored, but a politely written opening mail deserves a reply, if you can't be bothered to do that, then why be here.
Curious Chick gives six good reasons for not replying to mail, but she misses the point, as this thread is about polite opening mail written specifically for the recipient, not trash mail.
I love Wetnwild's analogy to fishing and baiting your line, but a fish hasn't asked for your attention, the people on here have.

RE:Please reply to your mail

More support for Mutley

Ladies & Couples --- ANSWER YOUR MAIL ---

RE:reasons why i don't reply...

Point 1. I think the reason most guys resort to "copy and paste" is that soo much of their mail is ignored that they see no point in making much of an effort (include me in this).
Points 2 - 6 Fair enough, particularly 6.
SF.

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Hi curious, yes if the sender is sending mail like that then he is just playing the numbers game and is mailing everyone & anyone, no thought has gone it to it at all, he deserved not get a responce, well done x

RE:If you can't be bothered, dont bother

CC: here are two mails I have sent recently. Do you consider them worth a reply.

1.
Hi **** & ****
We are *** & *, both straight males who can visit singularly or as a pair. We like to give a lady lots of attention, either in a dogging location, or in the comfort of your own home. If you fancy playing in the car, then we are happy to watch or join in upto to whatever level you want. Hope you might like to meet us. We are mostly availiable weekday evenings, we do not let people down, and we will always turn up, or give you plenty of notice if we can't. If we meet and you're not interested, no problem, let's just have a drink. *'s profile is "**********"

2.
Hi ********

My name is ***, I am a UK guy, and come across to FL now and again to ***, mostly Ft Pierce, but changes around a bit.
It would be very nice if there were some like minded people I could vist during my stays, for some pleasent evenings chatting, drinking and possibly more. I have been an onoff nudist since my late teensearly twenties, as and where the situation allows, and love the naked lifestyle.
My profile is quite direct, as I have been doing this for some time, but there are no expectations. If you think you might like to meet me, let me know, and I will contact you before comming over next time.

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Hi curious, youre being too hard on cizzy, have you seen some of the profile requests "horny cpl looking for horny male" how can anyone pick out the relevant info to build a response to, the situation me and the other sgl men is that we have a split second to grab the persons interest (if our mail gets read at all) so if someone takes the time to send a brief insight to themselves and what they can offer they should at least warrant a reply x

Woe is me... Or rather, you!

Well for the benefit of the not so needy, rather than sulking profusely and appearing like a bit of a basket case in a forum. Might I suggest you ask for opinions and suggestions on how you might improve your chances.

People do tend to favour the positive...

Also becoming a little too invested in every single message, is liable to set alarm bells ringing. The internet is shallow and impressions count. If you want to spend three years writing an epic introductory note to some random stranger then do so. Just don't assume they have to pay any attention to it. For therein lies the path of freakery and not the good kind. lol

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Guys, how incredibly arrogant of you to expect a reply, you must be complete idiots, sorry, basket-cases.
Why don't we have a site poll. Should womencouples reply to mail. 1.Yes 2.No. 3.Not if rude or one-liners
Lets not have "depends on content", too easy to make excusses.

Jack.

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Thumbs up Mutley!

Reply

I was just thinking about this the other day, and this just my opinion

I think the same to a point that it does not take much to reply to a message, but i do agree that if it is just a one liner or rude etc then why should someone take that time to reply to someone who has not taken the time themselves.

Me personal if someone has read my message and not replyed, then i take it as they are not interested or my message just didnt tick the boxes. I dont blame them i just take on board and move on. I do get a little annoyed when someone does not take the time to read the message but again if say a womancouple are getting 20 plus messages with the same title then then most are going to assume the content will be the same.

I do take the time to read a profile as that is what it is there for but when the info is basic and not really connection can be made then what really can be done there?

So i would ask the question what can Iwe do to get that ever elusive responce? I suppose the all time question, although unique to the person is What do women want?

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the main reasons i dont reply to mail is down to 3 things basically...

1 if they are under 35 and over 45

2 if they are under 6ft

3 if they are more than 30 miles away

i also cant be bothered with couples, or anyone who asks if im near sucha place, like you did stormcrow, as i thing if anyone who fits what im looking for would try and find that out anyway

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Actually Scarlett it's called building a rapport and getting a conversation started based on polite manners. Sorry you don't seem to recognise that.

common sense!!

of course the main reason as to why most people don't reply to messages is because they are limited, so i wait until the end of the day and look to see who deserves my message the most...

oh and Northerdlad55 i do use the 'thanks but no thanks' thingy...especially useful for the pic collectors'...i didnt mention it as i thought it was just common sense!

Only if you read my profile first!

As per the header -only if you read my profile first!

Think that about covers it.

Happy Days!

Those who were bothered by lack of communication on any front must be loving this ever lengthening thread, hooraay!
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