been here a while

Ok, so been here a short while, with no success. What am i doing wrong? I get lots of messages to which i reply to, although i don't reply to all, i will admit. I am a genuine male of 50 yrs of age who has battled with his sexuality, am i gay? am i straight? am i bisexual?
I know one thing for sure. I have been in a situation with another male and i enjoyed it. I want to do it again but the man in question is reluctant. So help me out here. Be genuine and be open to meet, im not fucking about, life is far to short for that.