Please help

My wife and I are after another couple in Melbourne for firstly for friendship and also a bit of fun on the side . We are both 40 years old and have been married for 16 years and love each other. We are members on sites but the sleaze is starting to turn us off are there any places to go and meet normal people where you aren’t obligated to get nude at 11pm 
I’m looking for somewhere like minded people gather for a drink and a chat and whatever happens evolves naturally 
Is there such a place or am I destined to look at dick picks on line 
Any information would be helpful