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Club Virgin asks - 'Is a club night right for the single male?'

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As an absolute beginner I am on the horns of a dilemma (which is probably a sexual position), should I stay or should I go? All the adverts are very welcoming and clear about who is welcome on which nights but I have no idea what to expect. My concerns are:
- I don't know true numbers but would guess that solo males to solo females is 80:20 on adult dating sites. Does that follow through to clubs, spas etc and would I end up standing at the bar with the rest of the spare pricks?
- With the best will in the world no one would categorise me as one of the beautiful people, deeply average in all areas would sum it up. Would I end up slinking off home to buy a gym membership and some major surgery?
- I know for a fact that I'd not feel comfortable enough first time out to get involved even if invited to. Would that be a problem? Would I end up sitting at the bar alone nursing a mineral water?
- Is this a scene more suited to couples and single ladies? Should I find someone to hold my hand before jumping in?
- Am I overthinking?

Help and advice gratefully received

Re: Club Virgin asks - 'Is a club night right for the single male?'

As an absolute beginner I am on the horns of a dilemma (which is probably a sexual position), should I stay or should I go? All the adverts are very welcoming and clear about who is welcome on which nights but I have no idea what to expect. My concerns are:
- I don't know true numbers but would guess that solo males to solo females is 80:20 on adult dating sites. Does that follow through to clubs, spas etc and would I end up standing at the bar with the rest of the spare pricks?
- With the best will in the world no one would categorise me as one of the beautiful people, deeply average in all areas would sum it up. Would I end up slinking off home to buy a gym membership and some major surgery?
- I know for a fact that I'd not feel comfortable enough first time out to get involved even if invited to. Would that be a problem? Would I end up sitting at the bar alone nursing a mineral water?
- Is this a scene more suited to couples and single ladies? Should I find someone to hold my hand before jumping in?
- Am I overthinking?

Help and advice gratefully received


-In my experience there are very few single ladies in clubs. Most go with husbands or partners, but many will be interested in another guy joining them.

- I'm no oil painting either and I've had a lot of success in clubs, where personality seems to matter as much as looks and, don't forget, there are a lot of average looking women as well who feel just as insecure.

- You only have to get as involved as you want to. Its OK to just watch.

- Single ladies and couples definately seem to have an advantage, but I would always recommend clubs.

- You may be overthinking. Just go for it!

NWMale09

Re: Club Virgin asks - 'Is a club night right for the single male?'

I attend a sex club in London as a single female, and I can tell you what i see there. The evening starts off in the lounge area, very relaxed and friendly. You can chat to womencouples there if you wish, you will most probably almost have to make the first move. as a woman i do expect the manmen to make the first move, otherwise i assume they don't fancy me and are not interested.

It depends very much on the evening: some nights lots of sexy playful women, other times lots of single men left wanking in corners, but no two nights are the same. You do need to go more than once to get a range of experiences, good and bad.

You will see all sorts of bodies there, depending on the club, (so read the reviews on here). some do want the beautiful people, others accept all. personally i like a guy's personality, not his body. tbc

Re: Club Virgin asks - 'Is a club night right for the single male?'

you don't need to have someone hold your hand because the owners of clubs are usually very welcoming and will show you round. they won't make introductions though, in my experience.

don't go there expecting sex 100%. it might or might not happen, depending on who is there. sometimes there are women there who go to the 'greedy corner' and any man is welcome,

you sound like a polite person, which is always valued. very pushy people are a total put-off, for me, anyway,

read the reviews on here, they help a lot

also read the forumfeedback given by punters to a club to know what to expec

Re: Club Virgin asks - 'Is a club night right for the single male?'

what to expect.

write to me if you would like to know more. i no longer live in london but in norfolk, and would accompany you to a club if you felt like it, but you don't really need that.

attitude is much more important than body parts

go to relax and have a good time and you will

good luck xx

Re: Club Virgin asks - 'Is a club night right for the single male?'

in my experience, no one will pressure you into anything, as long as you abide by the rules of not overstepping the yellow lines (in that club) around the play areas, you can just watch if you want, no problem.

read up on swing club etiquette too

lola xx