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one liners, flirts and being ignored

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occam

Lots of profiles of females and couples say they ignore one-liners and flirts. Seems reasonable enough; if the sender cannot be bothered to write something more substantial, then they cannot be serious!

Right? Well, sort of. The fact is that if you're a bloke most of your missives will, at best, be ignored, or, worse, evoke an abusive reply. So it's hardly reasonable to expect us to write essays tailored to each profile for most of them to be ignored.

So this is plea for a little understanding. When you get that brief (two or three sentence) email, consider the guy to be sounding you out to see if you might be interested. Give a brief reply back (even if it is a one liner!) and you might be surprised to receive a much fuller response that gets something useful going.

Thanks for your attention.

Andy

Re: one liners, flirts and being ignored

It is always a difficult balancing act, and I assume it depends in part how impatient a person is.

Personally I would rather write to people properly, taking my time to read their profile carefully and to respond appropriately with a message that will interest them. It means I cannot write to as many people, but I would rather write fully and retain a good reputation rather than fire off a couple of lines in the hope that a lady or couple may wish to know more.

James
November1

Re: one liners, flirts and being ignored

Good point, Occam.

It's silly, all this pressure being placed on the guy. Single guys aren't the time wasters, it's the other way round.
Jack4U2009

Re: one liners, flirts and being ignored

This is the most accurate and serious thread i've read! - It is a good case that both of you have made, and i myself feel frustrated too, that i spend lots of thought and time considering how polite, and how flirty my mail is... and finding the right balance between the two.

I (like many im sure) feel im a very down to earth guy, (with a MAIN goal of giving the girl pleasure before my own) and it does seem to be a fact that many, (MANY) girls take advantage of the more-guys-to-girls-ratio.

I hope this thread can be read and reviewed by some of the female members, as it may help us guys ... somehow.?

Maybe you girls can at least reply with "sorry, im not interested" ?

Its quite disheartening for guys that genuinly try to start some sort of conversationcommunication. and get absolutly nothing in return.


stoneguy

Re: one liners, flirts and being ignored

I must say that i totally agree to what you are saying, when you put the time and effort into composing a email to someone or to several people and then not hear anything back in my mined a little rude and inconsiderate. If you are writing to them then most of us are genuine and not timewasters, it doesnt take much to press the not interested button or give a brief reply.So come on all you females out ther give us men a little respect.
mimi2009

Re: one liners, flirts and being ignored

Hi,

I recently joined this site and was inundated with messages.

First there are the ones that don't allow 'classic' members to reply, sorry, can't reply! I hope you don't think I'm ignorant.

Then there are the ones that, after checking their profile, have decided they are not suitable and I have gently declined their offer only to be nagged (7 messages so far from one guy) by them saying, for example, that although they have put 'fisting' in their profile they don't have to do it!
I'm sorry, if it's in your profile that you want to do it, how can I trust you not to?

Then there are the ones that seem ok, I try to always reply but when you get 60+ messages in two days it's not easy to keep track. I know you can see your sent mails but flicking back and forth to find out is a nightmare. (if anyone knows how to keep track please let me know - and no, I can't write it down for privacy reasons).

I'll keep trying to filter out the men who are telling the truth and hope I don't decline the one that could be my perfect sex partner!

I will endeavour to use the 'thanks but no thanks' button but I hope no one thinks it personal!

So please believe me when I say I do try to reply to everyone but it's not always as easy as it seems.
occam

Re: one liners, flirts and being ignored

Thanks Mimi, it's always nice to get another's perspective! With all these problems it's a wonder when any of us get together to do the deed!

Perhaps this site ought to have something like e-commerce sites such as Amazon where you can rate the quality of the "service". So those who won't take no for an answer or who ignore a two paragraph, carefully crafted, email, or who fail to show for an assignation, get down rated?

Andy