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inkedmama	3:45 am Monday, 3^rd November, 2008 My husband is a very dominate alpha male. To the pont where he intimadetes most men at work and in personal life. I am the submissive one to him. While in life I am not submissive (coworkers call me a force of nature amoung othr things) I am very submissive to him. Lately he talks about me being with another man. Specifically a black man. I cant believe this is something other than fantasy talk...but it has the feeling of being a bit more. If I press he says its just talk but he does it all the time. It is a big part of the fore play lately. And while I never thought of ever cheating on my husband ever...now I start to wonder what it would be like to be with another man. I almost want him to set something up but on the other hand dont really believe it will happen. Which makes me think of accepting the offers I get from men out in the world. which scares me because I am not awomen who cheats. I was 19 when we married, he was 30. I am a thick curvy women that black and latin men notice alot. It feels good to be noticed but....i never thought about it till he pointed it out. His finance before me cheated on him...I cant image him wanting me to do the same thing and I could never betray him but feel pressured to do so. I guess my question is...how could such an powerful controlling man...who doesnt like it when a person touches his car...be okay with another man touching his wife. It doesnt make sense unless I am less important than his cars. I dont understand. I think he wants other men to touch me because he doesnt love me or doesnt repect me anymore. And after 12 years of marriage and three sons.... I dont understand. I want to be desired, I want to be touched...and our sex life isnt really missing anything. we have sex several times a week ...so why would he want me to turn to another man. I am so confused.
inkedmama	4:11 pm Friday, 7^th November, 2008 husbands want me to be with another man I just want to speak with a couple or man who has done this. My fear is that my husband doesnt want me or love me anymore because heis okay with another man touching me. Couples who do this...i just want to know that its not a lack of love or wanting.
deedgess	6:32 pm Friday, 7^th November, 2008 Re: husbands want me to be with another man if you don't feel comfortable with the idea - then discuss it with him. Everyone is different, but from our own perspective, I can tell you that my husband loves to see me being pleasured precisely because he DOES love me so much - it is his gift to me. My gift to him is to enjoy his gift with all my being! However, it sounds like you aren't sure that your relationship is stable - and cuckoldry probably isn't the way to fix marital problems...
jamesanL	8:20 pm Friday, 7^th November, 2008 Re: questions about this fetish your husband sounds like most men when they get to a certain age. we have got everything we ever wanted and now its time to relax coz if we dont we'll blow he has a lovely wife 3 kids a nice home and car. he sounds as, he's worked hard all his life all the above is a great responsalility and now he can sit back alittle you both need to chill out and find some time for yourselves. the next time he mentions his fantasy grab the paper and tell him to get on with it. swinging brought my marriage back in line and we are stronger than ever it takes a strong marriage to do this and you get alot of fun out of it to boot your only young once enjoy cheers Jay
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antoninorusso	10:05 pm Friday, 7^th November, 2008 Re: husbands want me to be with another man if you dont want to do it then DONT, he cannot force you to do things that you dont want to do. If he tries then he's not worth staying with. Go and find yourself a real man who wants you for you. If all else fails Im waiting for you, Im a latin blooded male who would take you in Antonino
WivesBanger	12:48 am Saturday, 8^th November, 2008 Re: questions about this fetish am a black alpha dominant male who play with or fucks other men's wives while hubby watch or not watch depending on what we agree on. I have done this for last 12 years. I love and want it more. As for your hubby, it is his fantasy and he want it for you to help him fulfill it. Having done this for several couples am able to say it is not strange for him to want to share you with another man. so take comfort in that hwe is giving you freedom to it with his consent and approval because he loves you and trusts immensely! Also it says he is secure and knows who he is and he is not possessive type in that way. hope to hear from you. thanks, Master K
sarahanden	5:43 am Saturday, 8^th November, 2008 Re: questions about this fetish hi read your article this morning. I am a really strong personality (male half of couple) who used to be insanely jealous about sarah. However the last few years we have talked about me watching her with another man really turned me on. we talked about it for several years and now we have joined the swinging scene. we have had a couple of meets, and although we only do soft swing, that is everything goes apart from full sex, we both really enjoy it. I love to see another man with his head buried between sarahs thighs. I love watching her suck another mans cock. I would go for full swap but sarah does not want to yet. does this help in anyway? den
inkedmama	7:24 pm Saturday, 8^th November, 2008 Re: husbands want me to be with another man our relationship is very stable - it just sounds to good to be true - like he cant possibly mean it. He has never been the jealous type and in the first years of our marriage it bothered me that he was never jealous of me. I have always flirted and danced with other guys and he would just smile and said I was just being "insert my first name" . I had always thought jealous equals love. I realized he trusted me totally and got joy from the outward social butterfly that I am. This fantasy might be an extention of the joy he gets seeing me flirt and laugh with other people. I just keep thinking he cant mean it.
malaman	7:51 pm Thursday, 19^th February, 2009 Re: questions about this fetish You have so got it wrong your husband adores you, he wants you to go with other men because he is so proud of you. He is an alpha male in I guess a high pressure job, in short he wants to be put down, humiliated if you like, and the only one he trust to do this is YOU, that is total love. He is looking for something only you and he can share, the other man is his way of promoting his jealousy, which in turn heightens his love for you, were his emotions are at there very peak, he is not trying to pass you on I promise you, if you discuss it with him and you are both open, I think you will find deep down he is scared of losing you to someone else, but the danger excites him, and this makes him feel alive. Take the plunge, discuss it after, what you liked and didn't like, fine tune it and you will see a new lease of life, and a very attentive husband, you will sing all day. Good luck
wantstowatch19	4:44 pm Friday, 27^th March, 2009 Re: husbands want me to be with another man I would love to share my wife with another man also,I love her very much and I would get very excited to see her enjoying herself,it is just an extension of the trust I feel we have in each other that she would never cheat or stray,as some people have said when you reach a certain age and have acheived a degree of comfort,why not experiment a little,Jealousy is NOT love !!
2plus1isFun69	11:12 am Friday, 3^rd April, 2009 Re: husbands want me to be with another man The whole question of why husband's like to watch their wives with other men has been debated for a long time. I think it is true that husbands like to know their wives are attractive (it is an extension of the trophy wife thing). However, for someone who is so dominant, there will be an element of knowing that his wife can be fucked by another guy and still come back o him as the one she REALLY wants. If he is really controlling, there will also be the suggestion that he can control her into giving her body away (against her better judgement?) because she is so totally cntrolled by him that she will do ANYTHING to please him - the Story of O, one of the greatest erotic books in history, was based on this idea. For a dominant man the idea of havng complete control over a woman's (especially his wife's) body, so that he decides who can enjoy it, when and how, is a powerful stimulus. My recommendation is to discuss it first. Get him to admit why he wants this and only then, if you think your relationship is strong enough, go for it.
alexalso2	4:40 pm Friday, 17^th April, 2009 Re: questions about this fetish Hi Whatever you do, don't just jump into it. it's clear that you are unsure about this, so why not try a little flirting with another man while he is their to watch and see how he actually responds. if then you are both happy to take things further then do so on the next occasion not this one. don't go to far to fast. maybe try going slow IE: everything but penatration the first time you do it. and then see how you both respond. Good Luck
LongJonn	9:54 pm Wednesday, 27^th May, 2009 Re: questions about this fetish My wife and I have gone this route and have been into this lifestyle now and enjoying it for a number of years. I would say my profile is very similar to your husband's. Why did I do it? Well, allthough my wife has been with many men over the years I have not felt the need to go with a single other female because she satisfies my every need. Every part of her body turns me on greatly from her feet, her calves, her thighs up to her face and very sensual mouth. So I like to see her whole body in a variety of poses i.e. when being fucked, being penetrated or giving head. She has a lovely arse so what better than to watch as a dick is going into her and to see how her arse moves and the muscles in her thighs contracts. To see her pussy opening up for a cock and creaming. However, I can see none of this when I'm fucking her myself so what better way than to watch while someone else is doing it. The other thing that I find exiting is that my wife gets so horny that morality goes out the window and a cock is all that matters, any cock. So once again I'm turned on by her exitement. The man she fucks is immaterial, most of the time I dont even see his face or is interested in his personality, neither is she, its the cock that matters. I suppose you could say that this is the utmost celebration and the utmost homage of the love and desire I have for my wife. And it certainly beats looking for the exitement elsewhere.
HardcorePlayaz	11:50 pm Saturday, 4^th July, 2009 Re: questions about this fetish Hi Firstly the point that he has mentioned it means he wants to share this with you, wether it be in fantasy or as reality, in truth all of it is Fantasy even if you carry it out, if you do, look upon it as a next level experiance and a secret shared by you both and the other TOY'S you involve I am not trying to confuse you, I am trying to lay things out before you in such a way as you should judge them, anybody that does this in reallity is a Toy, something to be played with not just used. whatever act you engage you should first look at the big picture ie both of you and then yourself make sure you get exactly what you want from it as we all should, the act itself will never live up to the fantasy and never should because in the end we should be re-hashing it make sure you are putting in the key things of your fantasy ie physical and then the real fantasy begins, your mind should be having most of the sex, and in there everything is perfect you get exactly what you want. The fantasy you talked of for instance should from my mind be looked at from this way. your partner wants to place you in their most important of all Instances their Fantasies as for humans there is no greater position in reallity. he is not looking at you as an object in the singular sence this fantasy goes much deaper than that, and remember on this forum or anywere within the liberated adult scene, your relationship is or should not even be a factor, sex and love are totally different subjects. Even if you are in different countries in thought you should be in the same room that's what it is all about shared experienses, you may find that your standard rolls may even reverce you will find a new kind of ground with your partner, in the fact that you are both on the same learning and experience curve, this is a path to a new begining jealousy and deciept will be as they should be, not in existance. you are sharing something that is very intemate and quite frankly most people have enough trouble admiting these things to themselves yet alone their partner, so a huge jump you will have already taken, you now have to make things equal, easier said than done as you may find yourself looking at a role you never played in your relationship ie who the instigater is, there is always a stronger hand in this, you might find after talking that its you, thats very common if nessary set your rules of engagement how far you go, beleive me try and narrow it down as much as you can what you can and can,t do. in the ideal world there is no such word as can't unless its role play,the word in itself says there is a person incharge if thats how you want it ok, but a good way to start role play is. believe me if you get it right it will set your relationship in stone, and don't for christ sake think your partner wants you to start skrewing around its not the same thing at all, remember the words are shared expirence you have to talk first and you have to establish your common ground, first try putting it the way i have explained not that you want to or he may want! you to start building the "we thing", ASAP because its about you both. By the way these words come from a couple that have been together for 25 years doing this for 23 of them, and we are just in our forties, we have owned and ran two of the biggest and most sucessful liberated adult clubs in the country and as a final note always leave yourself something, and "remember" "Regresion is'nt always going backwards sometimes the first time around you arent experienced enough to see and feel everything there is to offer." Have Fun, if you are worried about anything else drop us a line. and we will try to help. Mark & Beccy
cuckcoupleherts	12:34 am Wednesday, 27^th April, 2011 RE:Re: questions about this fetish I love and trust my wife absolutely, respect is mutual. I have been jeolous in previous relationships, my wife is my soulmate, best freind and everything I will ever want or need. We`ve been together 10 years. I am 40 yars old, 17stone, 54inch chest big built, and in life dominant ,alpha, takes absolutely no shit from people, decent size down below. We share the best sex either of us has ever had. Now one day after watching some porn together, she mentioned that her ex had a 9inch long, and thick cock.I was shocked myself at how much , thinking of her being stretched and pounded by him turned me on. I imagined she must have loved fucking him. Due to us lovingtrusting each other, I asked her , tell me more, she told me of his great staying power, massive loads of cum and then almost immediate repeats. I almost came thinking of her really being fucked, she was exactly the same because of me being turned on. I`ve never felt jeolous of him, or insecure about my own performance. Her first ever squirting orgasm was with me. We took this further, through fantasy talk, then swinging clubs, where she fucked other guys, whith my encouragement and I`ve sucked cocks when shes wanted me to, nothing turns her on more.Its the sex, not the people that we`re so into.Now she is dominant in the bedroom, and wants to watch someone shes just fucked, force his cock into my mouth, and fuck and dominate me. and for her I will enjoy the abuse and cum hard while he uses me.But only together do we ever fuck other people, and outside of the bedroom, we are equals, and I am her protector and respected partner.I can handle myself , and have done against more than 1 guy at a time for insulting or touching her at a gig or pub. But back home with her, for her and so therefore us , I will kneel to lick balls and ass, with her crushing my balls with her foot. The difference mentally for us both is shocking, say she trod on my toe , shes really apologetic, as you are with those you really love. But she will beat and abuse me hard, dripping anothers cum from her pussy and arse. I beg her to and thank her afterwards. Then we return to supporting and caring for each other, as equals and partners. I`ll bet your man really loves you and just wants you to enjoy all that you can, because whith you fulfilled and happy he feels , and is being a good husband. He`s aided in your happiness , and thats what he wants. We`ve slowly advanced through our fantasys together, with niether leading the other anywhere they wern`t happy with being.I think our roles during sex, are a brilliant equaliser for our everyday lives, She has total unquestioned control, shes strong and proud, against teenage kids that dont listen, rude people in the way in pubs or shops and all the little bits of crap that hinder you, one way or another. And I dont have to worry or go and sort things out, and maintain balanced resposibility. I just take whatever she wants me to totally submissive, not accountable. We both love it. Just Enjoy.
Tamsin69	12:28 pm Tuesday, 17^th May, 2011 RE:RE:Re: questions about this fetish Wow, I cannot offer advice as I have not taken another man yet but will do later this year once I have worked out all the logistics but some fantastically interesting replies and what a great thread, I found it helpful.
DomMidsBull	8:57 am Friday, 7^th October, 2011 Its not cuckoldry " I guess my question is...how could such an powerful controlling man...who doesnt like it when a person touches his car...be okay with another man touching his wife. It doesnt make sense unless I am less important than his cars. I dont understand. I think he wants other men to touch me because he doesnt love me or doesnt repect me anymore. And after 12 years of marriage and three sons.... I dont understand. I want to be desired, I want to be touched...and our sex life isnt really missing anything. we have sex several times a week ...so why would he want me to turn to another man. I am so confused." If as a Alpha male as you describe him, sometimes this practice allows him to show n see his power over you but it is not really n truely what cuckolding is about. Often when cuckolding occurs, it is done by a male, who finds the idea both appealin n exciting, with a degree of false humiliations. Of course there will be curiousity from you about how such things, like being with another would feel etc, As we grow we all look back n wonder, what if, If only etc ...... It is my belief, that he is meerly exercising his control over you, testing you, seeing your worth. But as i am not your hubby i cant say for sure. Cuckold relationships are often very strong, stronger then most, they have to be to withstand such, however the act you are describing to me does not forfil the cuckold criteria, it would be more along the lines of a Ds relationship, with you both identifying yourselves in those roles.