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Hi

I'm new to the scene but had some initial interest from a couple. A few messages back and forth, even arranged a meet. Then nothing, pretty clear they're ignoring my attempts to see what's happening.

I'm wondering if it's normal for this sort of thing, seems very rude to me. Wish i could warn others.

Re: Impolite initial behaviour

Hiya,

First of all, we're really sorry to hear that you've had such an initiation! Unfortunately, from what we can gather, such things are not uncommon, but we're honestly, honestly not all like that! It's true to say that after arranging a meet, cold feet are EXTREMELY common....not just with 'beginners' but almost every time (there speaks the voice of experience hey?? lol). However, there's no excuse for not making a quick call or sending a text to say so......

You didn't mention that you had had any phone contact ...it might be an idea to try that next time, because that puts everything onto a more friendly footing - anmd then at least they can text if they're too embarrassed to call.

Anyway, hope this helps, and good luck for the next time!

Helen & Mike xx

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We get the impression that a lot on the site are just Dreamers. One half of the couple generally the Male, opens any mail sent and then 'Consults with his 'lady' who was only going to 'Do it to keep him quiet' So that is the end of the tale and not even a 'No Thanks'.
Then there are the supposed perfect matches but with a Hidden Agenda that they forgot to put in the profile. We have spotted the supposed 'Newbies' that have clearly vast miles on the clock. We have also spotted those supposedly up for just about anything, that have yet to go beyond Soft Swing'
So who is kidding who? and incidently wasting everybodies time.

Of course you can add in the Photo Collectors as well, Sad really!


B&S

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We are a married couple who have agreed to have a threesome as a one off before we have children, my wife has asked me to deal with the potential sex partner as she doesn't want people thinking that it is anything more than it is.
Our point was proven only last night when she agreed to go on cam and the first thing men were asking was are you alone and will you meet alone,our profile is clear so with all said and done yes my wife is doing it to make me happy and no i have not pressured her into it, it something we as a couple have agreed on but even i am loosing my patience with men trying it on and i have more patience than the wife so its not looking good.At the end of the day if people cant even be polite and respectful of our wishes on the net then there is no chance we would trust them in our bed.


Mr&Mrs A

Impolite initial behaviour

My thoughts are that we all have to start somewhere here and single guys have a hard time knowing how to act. As they get more experience they begin to understand the scene. we've all encountered the "what are you wearing" or "so can we meet" after ten seconds of chatting and my take on this is that they just don't know what's expected. whereas others with more experience should be educating the newbies - we were all there at one time?!!
This stuff has to be fun for all involved - that's the key isn't it?
Sue

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Hi having used the site for a year or so ,I am really gutted at how many people initially say the want to meet ,especially after seeing photos.At my age 60yrs I am not expecting people to think I am a good looking muscle man or whatever & I do not pretend to be.But these people then, after getting my hopes up for a meet , they start to make excuses & then eventually stop replying to emails or on site messages. I would prefer people to be honest & just say no .I do suspect some people just get off collecting photos .I was supposed to meet a couple who are staying at the Belroy hotel in Benidorm on Wednesday 2nd June this week,I was to text them to say when I was on my way & they would confirm ok.But no reply even though the text was delivered .I also left a voicemail but nothing .It really annoys me people can be so ignorant.I live in Spain & found more than enough timewaster on this site I hope they read this .Can I suggest that you have a forum where people can be named & shamed.Maybe this would clean up the site of these timewasters.But a big thank you to those who I have met & had a really enjoyable time with ,not just sex but a drink & chat too. Feel better now regards Bobforfun2img src="imagesadultemoticons017.gif"