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Just echoing what's already been said. I upgraded to premium membership in the hope of increasing my chances but so far I've only had interest from one couple. They asked me to send my pic which I did but I've heard nothing since so I guess they thought I am an ugly geezer :-) I can live with that but what niggles me is that they didn't have the decency to say, Thanks but we're not interested. Something that puzzles me also, is that there are apparently lots of couples on the site looking for single males to join them, I should know I've sent mail to many of them but none have replied, so I've been asking myself for sometime, How many of these profiles are real?

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It' even worse when they institute the emails then - no reply or join your friends but never reply to you - why bother joining (or is this a scalp for them?)

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ive contributed to this forum on the above subject many times.im glad others are speaking out.my membership has so far has been 100% inactive.i begin to wonder with the level of critisism towards this site if the ads are totally fabricated?that would explain many genuine members non responses to authentic E.mails.img src="imagesadultemoticons010.gif"

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Have to agree guys. Sounds more like repressed, whingers don'twe, but thats not the case. Just posted similar thing myself. Like most ppl, I can accept rejection, but ignorance is so low. Although, I do have to say, that there are still genuine ppl around, who will reply, even though they are few and far between

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might be worth checking your mail settings!!!!!!!!
loads of people mail us, we go to reply but can`t cos their filters r set to premium only
that might be the standard set up 4 prems 4 all we know - worth checking

oh and by the way the car in the background of the pic belongs 2 a single guy off this site!!!!!!!
the only guy out of 10 we were meant to be meeting who showed up!!!!!!

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Mail settings aren't the problem here, mine have always been set to allow standard or premium members and I suspect most single guys would set their's the same. The only problem I have is that I have wasted hard earned cash by subscribing, I'm not impressed and I won't be renewing my subs!

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puzzles me also, is that there are apparently lots of couples on the site looking for single males to join them, I should know I've sent mail to many of them but none have replied, so I've been asking myself for sometime, How many of these profiles are real?

Hi T00 1,

All the profiles are probably real, we believe. The problem is that the authors are either ignorant or do not know they can click on, "Thanks but no thanks." Back to what some wag wrote a while back, "Us guys are ten a penny."
We do not blame couples for being choosy, we have to be!! We do think it sheer ignorance not to reply and we always do and also have the auto reply set up in case we are busy!!

Best of luck, J&G

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Hi Jargon, we all have our own opinions and like I've said previously, I'm asking myself, "How many of these profiles are real?"

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I guess that it's possible that it's a case of the profiles *were* real but the people who placed them have long gone. Profiles don't *seem* to expire on here like they do elsewhere and there's no indication of the last login date, which would be useful.

We have an outbox half full of unread mail.

HTH

Hugs and licks

Ian & Liga

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Hi Jargon, we all have our own opinions and like I've said previously, I'm asking myself, "How many of these profiles are real?"
im with you on this one t101,glad you speak outimg src="imagesadultemoticons010.gif"

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Strange isn't it. Maybe folks just like playing mind games. Don't know why though. If they are not interested, then why are they here ? Another strange thing...How come when you are a standard member, you appear to get lots of interest and flirts sent, and all of a sudden, when you think this could a good site, and you pay a membership fee, all those who sent flirts ignore your replies and you don't seem to get anymore !!!!!!!!!

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just want to bring this topic back to the top of the page where it belongs

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we dont get many replies and always answer one that we do? although to date we havemy ever had a flirt...maybe were just simply ugly..lol

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Ok - here's a reply from a guy who's had replies here. Now I grant you Ive had a fair number of mails unread and this site is definitely got worse since David originally set it up.
I counted my emails tonight and the total outgoing mails to cpls mainly was 56. That amount was sent out over roughly one month. From time I sent first email till now is about 2 months. I have had to date 12 positive replies, 5 thanks but no thanks, 11 just asking for advice (!!) and 3 jokers. Rest were non replies. So over 30 out of 56. Have met 4 of positive replies and chatting to couple others. What pissed me off enough to quit the site as premium was that David doesn't bother replying to mails or issues like discussed here. Be good to hear his view.

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Strange isn't it. Maybe folks just like playing mind games. Don't know why though. If they are not interested, then why are they here ? Another strange thing...How come when you are a standard member, you appear to get lots of interest and flirts sent, and all of a sudden, when you think this could a good site, and you pay a membership fee, all those who sent flirts ignore your replies and you don't seem to get anymore !!!!!!!!!
excellent point..i saw throught it straight away and wasnt fooled for a minute...sad way for a site to operateimg src="imagesadultemoticons010.gif"

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Hi Jargon, we all have our own opinions and like I've said previously, I'm asking myself, "How many of these profiles are real?"

Asking oneself a question will not find an answer.

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A seemingly useless and pointless comment!

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Folks sorry to bring reality into this but this is the internet, My guess is that there is a combination of all reasons mentioned as to why we dont receive replies.
Firstly dont take this serious, if your successfull then its a bonus.
I recon theres a cobination of fake profiles, people getting thrills from trying to wind up people, basically all that has been mentioned.
From my experience of swinging back in the day, there is nothing like word of mouth or recomendation. When i started swinging i had nothing for six months and then met two people and those two links intoduced me to so much sex i got an over load got fed up and havent swung in 4 years.
There are genuiene out there but far and few between.
Also remember even though most of us are here for fun the Sex industry is a multimillion pound industry and there is no part untouched by this, hence premium membership on a site advirtised as free.

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yep, seems like the case. I am not gonna push this anymore, just surf and see. Who knows with patience and forebearing, there may be light at the end of the tunnel. Good luck to all you genuine people out there, and YA BOO SUCKS to those idiots who play games. Childish innit, but hey..............

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must admit as a single bloke I have replyed 2 several ads an not got much response now Im not that bad looking but when the fat birds dont even reply theres something funny goin on! u r meeting 4 sex not 2 meet the parents! U can chat 4 a while b4 u decide if u wanna meet an even that havnt worked so far.wot do u women want??

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Absolutely, just like a lot of the posts about this subject until, at last YOURPLEASURE seems to have it all sorted and realises what goes on in this world. A thinking person!
Now perhaps we can all get down to the serious reason for being here, looking to get laid?
Happy swinging to all, Jose & Gloria

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...Now perhaps we can all get down to the serious reason for being here, looking to get laid?
Happy swinging to all, Jose & Gloria


That's the problem, it's virtually impossible to get laid for most of us using the site. The chance would be a fine thing!

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- must admit as a single bloke I have replyed 2 several ads an not got much response now Im not that bad looking

Maybe that isn't the whole problem. Personally, we don't bother with people who cannot be bothered to make at least an attempt to write to us in a language we can understand. Free clue: Internet != SMS. IMHO, the idea of communication is for the *recipient* to understand the message. Writing such gems as 'meeting 4 sex not 2' doesn't impress *us* with the author's intelligence, sense of respect or desire to please though it may impress others and that is certainly just *our* opinion. English is not the natural language of *everyone* on this site.


- but when the fat birds dont even reply theres something funny goin on!

Maybe you have just hit part of the nail on the head? 'fat birds'? That's a nice way to describe fellow swingers. Your respect seems to be a little selective.

- u r meeting 4 sex not 2 meet the parents!

Yes, with who *we* want to meet, not who others want us to meet.

- U can chat 4 a while b4 u decide if u wanna meet an even that havnt worked so far.wot do u women want??

We can only speak for this house. Good manners, respect and some degree of intelligence helps.

Hugs and licks

Ian & Liga

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Think the problem is that women get hundreds more mails then men do. Look at how many men are looking in relation to the number of women. I had a "thanks but no thanks" reply from a women who had been scared shitless by the nature of and the number of replies she'd had from here advert. Her words to me were "if you are for real then I'm afraid you won't stand a chance against all the others in here" and informed me that she'd be going elsewhere. I think sometimes us guys need to be not so pushy or direct with the women. At the end of the day we want to shag these girls. Let's not make them afraid of us!!

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I have checked my mail settings.
I do not blame females or couples for being
choosy
I can appreciate that I am not everyons cup of brew.
There are timewasters out there as in all walks of life.
It works both ways guys.
If you say you will meet someone DO IT!.
To the couple with the car in the background
I apologise on behalf of any divorced members.
You single guys, it is up to you.
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puzzles me also, is that there are apparently lots of couples on the site looking for single males to join them, I should know I've sent mail to many of them but none have replied, so I've been asking myself for sometime, How many of these profiles are real?

Hi T00 1,

All the profiles are probably real, we believe. The problem is that the authors are either ignorant or do not know they can click on, "Thanks but no thanks." Back to what some wag wrote a while back, "Us guys are ten a penny."
We do not blame couples for being choosy, we have to be!! We do think it sheer ignorance not to reply and we always do and also have the auto reply set up in case we are busy!!

Best of luck, J&G


Further to my reply this morning,
I have e mailed info asking this question.
"A typical line at the bottom of a Couples profile is
Wanting to meet M and F and Couples.
Ref the M and F do the mean seperatlyor
is it it together."
Causes me some confusion at times.
I hate auto rejects.
To those who have taken the trouble to type a no ,I reply thanks for letting me know.
If you are one of them thank you again ,you have good manners and my best wishes.