I read many profiles where Switching is denigrated: “you are either a Dom or a Sub”. Anything in between is a compromise at best it seems to those views. Being a sub most of my life I believe the best Doms have been Even better Subs. Most relationships require a give and take approach. That philosophy keeps me honest when I Dom. I am brutally merciless as a Dom and the understanding that I can give as well as I can take it helps develop trust in my partners. They know I won’t ask them to do anything that I wouldn’t or haven’t already done. That’s important when I’m stretching someone past their comfort zone. Giving good aftercare is also a must IMHO. So recently I got a Covid booster and feel like shit! To deal with it I focus on my past as a sub, imagining my body aches are from my sub partner learning how to be merciless in my punishment: I imagine I ache from having the shit kicked out of me, being trampled underneath her shoes, a reminder of the ecstatic time together with each ache. I find it erotic when a sub learns the power of domination…and the intrinsic power they have as a sub. Sometimes I get the feeling some Doms don’t want to let the cat out of the bag, a magician revealing their tricks. To me it is an honest give and take in a caring relationship. My sub is free to be brutal because they know I can take what they are doing to me…,because they have survived it firsthand. Boundaries are respected, for instance I don’t mind my Dom shitting in my mouth. Those less squeamish with that kind of play are affirmed knowing that they would show that kind of devotion but are free to decline with caring respect. They’re given that respect because chances are they’re very familiar with being stretched as a urinal and honestly have a boundary. When I use my subs face for my foot to put pressure when I’m fucking from behind makes me understand the crushing pressure in my head. I reminisce or pretend it’s the same devoted sub growing in their kinkiness and overcoming their hesitancy to become brutal as they by stand on my face, scared they’ll break my nose…and part of them awakening with the cruel desire to want to break my nose. 🥰
