I don't mean to say that getting together just to hookup isn't bad, I just personally prefer to get a little connection and get to know who I'm with. Being more introverted, I tend to be more comfortable when someone can bring me out of my shell and get me to open up. I've had times where I meet up with others (not from this particular site) and we have some great sex, but it's more often than not the encounters where I can just sit, talk, cuddle, and spend time with someone, where I'll actually have a sort of connection to the point that I can actually last longer and know what can make my partner tick. Knowing what names or actions can get them to react positively is a lot more personally fulfilling than when we just fuck like rabbits and separate at the end.
Again, I'm not putting off anyone who might prefer the meet-mingle-move on, I just would like to share my personal experiences and enjoyments. I have quite a few scenarios that I'd be more than willing to share with whoever is interested, I am a writer in my spare time so I can gladly provide to those looking. Though the experiences are just reduced to those who I've been with that are alright with me sharing our encounters.
To me, there's not quite anything like being able to take someone to the beaches at night, lay out a giant blanket and just relax under the stars with a bong, blunt, or dab. The sort of experience you can share with someone as you lie down and let each other's body heat and the bonfire keep you warm in a chilly night as you start to share yourselves with one another. The sensation of hands dancing across your bodies while you can take in the view of the other from the light of the moon or the flickering lights of the flame. Then when you're finally embracing the urges that overtake you you can feel a sense of comfort in knowing who you're with. Afterwards, you have a sense of clarity and are able to make that moment last longer while feeling a sense of closeness you indulge in afterwards with the comfort of knowing you can spend time with this person whenever one needs the other or even just as close friends who aren't afraid to let one another know how they feel. Sometimes, you find the one you know you want to be with forever, which I can happily say I am. I wouldn't be here if it hadn't been for them, hesitant on a poly lifestyle until they helped ease me into it.
I know I went off so many tangents, but my point is, some have this same longing for closeness, so if you are a person who only wants to hookup, see what the other wants, and maybe you might surprise yourself.
