"Girls don't make passes.........

OK might as well let the cat out at an early stage just to put the matter straight: mine are round John Lennon type specs with very thin frames and legs. Sometimes I even forget I've got them on.

Yeah I must admit that "Brains" from Thunderbirds wasn't exactly a sex symbol, but some women might get off on the nerdy look - I dunno.....

Personally I've never been a biggie for wearing shades. I use them mainly for driving. If I'm out in the sun, I let the sun at my face otherwise - if I'm wearing shades - I end up looking like a red raccoon by the end of the day :-)

Glasses or no glasses? Not sure it matters but, like most things you wear, it helps if you get the style right. So many choices with frame styles and colours etc so no excuse for getting it wrong ... Eg thick frames can emphasise the size of your nose. Look what it did for Mr Potato Head.

Laser treatment? The best investment I ever made 8 years ago.

Alipop: Agree that style is crucial. Funny thing, though, is that I find on at least *young* women, any style is fine (lol).

I personally have no probs with guys wearing glasses, as hubby wears then all the time, and I need them to drive, I think it's a younger generation thing, I know when I was much younger, I was a lot more superficial than I am now, and would discard people for all sorts of reasons, that now seem irrelevant.
I would now rather spend my time with someone who makes me laugh, is great in bed, and wears even outrageous spec, lol... than I would someone who bores me stupid, but doesn't wear specs, lol.

Horny: Sounds as though you're a Ronnie Corbett type.

Not at all, Skebbie, but do think, you maybe you should wear your specks more often, they may open your eyes to your often small mind hun

After reviewing this Skebbie, adding further, not sure why you actually, blogg, all I did was post a perfectly nice comment, which yet again attracted some kind of sarcastic ridicule from you, I wish we were all so obviously worldly, sexilly, perfect,as you obviously are, to sit in judgement, or is that that you are just taking a good look at yourself and realizing, maybe your not, either way, judgemental, snydey comments hardly make you look like the ' worldly intellectual ' type you you claim to be

Admin: Well that's a relief. I never considered myself to be haute couture, lol - maybe you've got something there :-)

Horny: I wasn't aware I'd made such a claim. Oh dear.......look. If we'd been having this conversation in a pub, and you'd mentioned you prefer blokes who made you laugh even though they might be wearing glasses, that comment I made would have been taken as the tongue in cheek dig it was intended as.
(Sigh......) I guess you and me are just going to have to agree to be incompatible on here...........xxx

Admin: My specs are pretty 70s: seems unlikely my ridiculous flared jeans will ever be considered "cool" again, though :-) Besides, I'd probably need bariatric surgery to get into them (lol).

Anyone else noticed the trend for youngsters wearing glasses with no lenses in them?!?!

God, that comment makes me sound really old! haha!

stacey: Yes, my son here in Japan has a pair. I thought it was daft when I found out, but now in fact I think they suit him. They seem to supply an intellectual facet that is otherwise lacking (haha....).

FA: I know what you mean about the vanitysports thing, but in the end I just found contacts too much of a nuisance (soft lenses fracturing and having to be removed, waking up with a hangover with contacts still in situ, etc. etc.) These days I gym without specs for vanitypractical reasons, but as I'm short sighted it prevents me from perving at the attractive women unless they are on the immediately adjacent weight machine :-) In that respect I suppose being half blind allows me to get on with the task in hand without becoming too distracted :-)

When I first went to the opticians for an eyesight test for glasses,he took my outside, pointed to the sky and said " What's that ? "
It's the sun" I replied.
" Well how much further do you bloody well need to see ? " he said.
A bit of culture now from Shakespeare's " Much Ado About Nothing "..........
" I kissed her lips ,she closed her thighs, and smashed my bloody glasses "
Don't worry about wearing specs. I've used them for years and the bright light here means i have to wear Reactolite one's which make me look even more mysterious and people can't look into your eyes and see what you're thinking !

BBW: I would certainly consider Kate Silverton if she asked me nicely :-)
Your story reminded me (in reverse) of that classic "secretary" line: "Miss Jones......just a minute. Take off your glasses. Good heavens, you're beautiful........." :-)

xboofx: Likewise I wear a　dedicated pair only for PC work. They're focused at just the right distance. Hugely helpful. Your other comment, though, got me thinking: Do glasses on women make them seem more dom, whereas those on blokes make them seem more subwimpy?

curvy: How about baseball caps? (maybe I should start a new thread with that one... :-)

Yep I think a lot of women would agree with you on the moustache issue. They seem to be a lot more plentiful among men of a certain age in the US - especially those that form a full circle around the mouth to join with a chin beard at the bottom: you know, like Bluto in Popeye :-) When combined with a baseball cap and a sleeveless wife-beater tee-shirt ??? (Minus specs of course 'cos that wouldn't be macho :-)

Lilith: I think Nana Mouskouri iswas the epitome of allure. Such a decent respectable woman :-)

graham: or maybe the nose studs are for the specs to rest on?? :-)

Now that I seem to have touched on some other "accessories" that may or may not be deemed "cool" or "desirable", perhaps I could solicit some opinions on those too. For example a lot of people choose avatars wearing baseball caps: Does that mean they're considered "cool" in real life? Do people wear them even indoors while watching telly and downing six-packs of beercoke with endless bags of Doritos or pork scratchings?? To me, at least, baseball caps remind me of chavs, but perhaps I'm in a minority here.

Skebbie, noticed the are lots of cool, dude-like avatars wearing caps and sunglasses. Strangely, when you look at their profile pics, if they exist, they look far from cool.

Have you ever been slightly disappointed after seeing a really cute avatar then seeing real photos?

Maybe the site should introduce new accessories to the avatar range: six-packs, string vests and pork scratchings.

Alipop: I'm still "saving" for my John Lennon specs, which would make my avatar fairly life-like, but for some reason they're really "expensive" :-) Other than that, I think avatars are daft (as stated on profile), as I've already noticed that (as you say) they bear little resemblance to their owners. (By the way - wot's a "pukka party"?? Have I been away from UK too long??)

But yes, I think you've hit on something there: more life-like avatars with more recognizable, affordable accessories: those suited to lower income brackets, perhaps, such as cans of cheap cider, daft meaningless Chinese character tats and perhaps a pit bull terrier on a chain ?

Curvy: So we seem to be agreed on baseball caps, and I also think that wearing shades indoors to improve one's mystique in fact has the opposite effect (lol). As much as I like my bum, I prefer to display it with tight jeans and not to show my crack, which would be gross (also gross on women too, especially when they bend over and also reveal some horribly cheapo Primark knickers :-)

"White socks and sandals".......must make a note of that....gulp. (Only kidding :-)

Curvy: Very perspicacious of you. Living where I am and working from home, at temps of 35-plus and 90% humidity currently, barefoot or flip-flops is all I can bear. Even trainers are worn with great reluctance.

Roslyn: Is the Bluto look with wife-beater sleeveless T-shirt your idea of hunky, then? (only joking)

Roslyn: How about the vulture-necked "don't spend as much time in the gym as I'd like to" look ? :-)

i think there should be more choice for avatar building and it should include white socks, speedos, sandals, pipe, desert boots, string vests, check shirts and the likes. it should also be easier to build up points as well. took me ages to get my straw trilby and build an avatar thats a totally 100% accurate picture of what i look like in my day to day life :
oh, and i wear glasses in real life and most woman i chat too reckon that i suit them but why do people insist in coming up to me and saying 'aw you really suit those, makes you look very intelligent'. wtf! did i look like a simplton before?
also, wearing fake glasses for 'fashion' is the stupidest thing ive ever seen.

kinkyfunnsa: How about baseball caps?? I agree that fake glasses are daft, but plenty people don't, it seems.

Roslyn: Yeah, I want to know how people accumulate such vast amounts of points. Do they keep clicking on the "like" button like some laboratory-conditioned rat while sifting through zillions of members' pics? Seems like a full-time occupation :-) The avatar system is clearly a site policy to encourage as many airheads as poss to be online at all times (that is - of course - those who think avatars are "cool" :-)

Amen to Curvy about grown men wearing baseball caps. My God, their best mate really ought to have a word I think. What's even yuckier is older guys wearing the damn things reversed!! While I'm in grumpy old man mode.. Can any woman here tell me if seeing young guys with their bum cracks and shreddies showing, with their jeans about to fall down.. is a turn on? Ok, I'm an old fart now, but I keep wanting to shout "pull yer bloody pants up for gods sake!!" I just can't get it, lol.

Slow4u: Sadly, all that stuff has infiltrated our culture from the States, particularly via skaters, rappers and rednecks, so for that very reason I've not embraced it on principle. I suppose this cultural globalization starts with the young, who invariably want to be cool, and then (unfortunately) it works its way up the age ladder and is adopted by older people who ought to know better, and just end up looking ridiculoussad trying to show they're "cool and in touch" too :-)

Roslyn: There are two views of cultural globalization: One is that it's inevitable and should be embraced and encouraged (the "multinational corporation" strategy); the other is that it destroys national identity and reduces "culture" to a sort of "Disneyland with baseball caps". I personally think that the Americanization of Britain has been ghastly over the last few decades. As you mention re. Halloween, as a kid in the north we had our home-grown version with turnip lanterns and didn't even know what an American pumpkin looked like. Now it's "trick or treat" - yuk !

One of the reasons I enjoy living in Japan is that the people here are proud of their culture and do their best to preserve and celebrate it. As a consequence, they have a strong self-identity as a nation without having to resort to flag-waving.