A common mistake newbie swingers make is to ‘assume’ that the other couple enjoys exactly the same kind of sex that they enjoy at home! In Many countries, many newbie couples haven’t had sex with other people ever. They’re literally moving from arranged marriages (by parents) to arranged swinging (by husbands!). Their exposure and experience of sex is limited to what they tried with each other over the years. Their assumption is that whatever they do with each other in bed is the benchmark of ‘good sex’ and that’s what they must do with others as well. Sadly, you don’t know, what you don’t know, so how would you know any better?
Remind yourself that one of the reasons for entering swinging is to try something new! A few flavour .. a new experience. Then why are you searching for the same experience with new people? Open yourself to new experiences, unfamiliar touch, unfamiliar styles of kissing, new methods, techniques and positions, new sensations and different smells, tastes, skin textures and sounds. New and different ways of reaching orgasms and very different likes, dislikes and preferences than what you have been used to with your partner.
Just because your spouse enjoys slobbering wet kisses doesn’t mean the new person would enjoy the same. Your man might orgasm with a blow job in two minutes making you proud of your technique but another man might prefer different kind of pressure. Those painful lip bites while kissing? Don’t do that without checking with the other person if they like it otherwise the session will end very quickly with a loud ‘ouch’, a push and a frown.
Invariably, the first swinging experience with a new couple is never up to expectations. Each individual participant starts to do what they feel they are best at. Everyone starts ‘performing’ to the best of ‘their own’ abilities. End result – no one enjoys as everyone is trying too hard! If the vibe and personal connect is right then there will always be a ‘second time’. That’s where things start to settle down. Couples relax a bit and are able to express what they like or dislike and what worked or didn’t work last time. That’s when each starts exploring unfamiliar territory more freely.
To really enjoy swinging, you must step out of the comfort zone of what you assume is ‘good sex’ at home and start exploring new and unfamiliar things. Stop comparing with your partner. The idea is not to find someone similar, the idea is to experience ‘different’. It’s a good habit in initial meets to keep checking what someone likes or dislikes by asking or by paying attention to their facial expressions and body language. Don’t compare. Don’t judge. Don’t Assume. Try new things. Open yourself to new experiences
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3:45 am Tuesday, 30th November, 2021
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Experienced 6'3'' Tall M Romantic @ Heart, Erotic in Nature and Streamy Lustful on Bed
