First year on the Hub....

Well I've been here for yonks, and on another site for even yonker :-)
Before I signed up here I'd already had a fair bit of experience, so it wasn't as much of a "watershed moment" as it has evidently been for you, Stacey. However, I would say that making the transition to adult dating has enriched my life beyond measure, and I can't even imagine the state I'd have been in if I hadn't done it. Praise the Lord and Halleluja for the internet :-)

Stacey....I think you're gorgeous, and it's wonderful to hear of your transformations.

I, too, have found a lot of changes in myself since coming here, and have learned a lot. I didn't come here looking for anything--I signed up when a friend suggested me come here to see each other on cam (sounds weird, yes, but nothing else would work for us), and am so glad I found it.

What I've found is a new confidence in myself and an acceptance of my body as it is, despite all my lumps and bumps. I've also discovered that not all men are like my husband, a fact I will be eternally grateful for (yes, I believed that relationships are about being with a control freak who thinks that yelling, belittling, and talking in a condescending manner are the norm).

I've learned that I like sex, after all (can't imagine why my sex life was nonexistent before?!?!?!).

At first on here, I chatted with almost anyone who pm'd me; I've gradually found the courage to tell the idiots to piss off, that I want to be spoken to like a woman, not a piece of meat. This has translated to my outside life.

I find myself in real life dressing nicer, not just in shapeless T shirts and oversize clothes.

I'm less likely to suffer fools.

In short, strange as it is to me, chatting on here has been a catalyst to some big changes in my life and how I feel about myself. When some say I should be on a dating site rather than here, since one night stands and casual sex are not my thing, I can honestly tell them I think I'm in the right place, for me.

Wow, thanks, what cool comments xx I guess in many ways we're all an inspiration for each other. For example, Roslyn, you've already done something I've nowhere near plucked up the courage to do and ventured out and about! I still wonder if I will ever do that but if I've come this far in the last year, who knows what the next year will bring?

What's also really nice to hear is that it seems this site has had nothing but a positive effect on everyone that has found it x :-)