When is the right time to explore 'THIS' lifestyle? and How?

When I say THIS lifestyle, I am talking about SRSP,SWAP and Threesomes.


Unlike marriage, there is definitely a right time to take a leap into this lifestyle. This is one decision where your parents/relatives don't have an influence on and it is your(both of us) independent call to explore. Basis my experience so far , jotting down few points on the right/best time to explore.


Again, this is basis our experience and may differ from people to people.


1. Only explore/ start exploring when both of you are ready. No coercion/ push to either in this case. It is a strict No-No, bound to backfire.


2. It is absolutely fine if one doesn't know about this lifestyle, explore it together. Visit sites like Mewe , Tumblr , AH together, watch content which highlights this lifestyle, read and share articles amongst both of you. But try to do these things together. Builds a bonding and trust. Start with roleplays while you watch such contents, imagine those situations and see your partner's response. TAKE IT SLOW!


3. Ask the spouse you are introducing to the lifestyle to take the lead. Let her/him find cpls, lead chats. This gives them the ownership and helps in building the interest.


4. Always keep in mind and be ready for worst case scenarios like 'meeting a couple who doesn't meet your expectations, feeling of guilt after sharing your spouses etc.' Talk about all this beforehand, it helps in preventing any knee jerk reaction


5. Verify before meeting and during meeting - Bare minimum is a voice call , video call is recommended. However, if you are married, pls ask for marriage pics when you guys meet. It builds a trust and keeps both cpls on the same boat in case things go wrong.


6. Do discuss what happened the last night. It avoids anyone going into the guilt trip.


7. Avoid sharing names, place of work and numbers even if you guys gel well. Use platforms like TG to continue your conversations. Privacy should never be comprised, you never know. Never share personal photos with face , however comfortable or high you are.


Could pen these thoughts in 10 min. first thing in the morning 🙂 Looking for feedback, inputs and additional pointers on the above topic basis your experience.

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