The reason I empower her

My brain hurts when I read some things Dom will demand “You will be ready when I’m ready!” or a recently, “I will “f” your mind and there is nothing you can do about it!” WTF? I would never ask my sub to be ready unless I’ve given her the time, resources, and energy to be ready. Her job is to serve. If she’s focused in fear of failing, I failed her. It’s my job to create an environment that she can serve.I’m not saying our way is the best or only way but I just wanted to share our success. Our relationship is so easy! 3 years and we share that we are still in our NRE phase. Not once have we needed to raise our voice or hands to be heard.We had many sessions. It had been a little over a year since we started. This impact session, like the many before it, would be different today. It happened in a flash. We barely had gotten started when she burst out, “You broke me!” She removed the last brick from the wall she had painstaking built. All I did was to never put her in a position that she had to question her trust in me. She removed her wall - on her time and her terms. She isn’t trapped in this relationship. She has the power and means to leave anytime she wishes. Every day she has the power to chose.I don’t need to take her energy, she freely chooses to give it to me. I empower her every chance I can!I feel loved, respected, admired, and the bonus - I know that some ridiculous kinky play is in my near future!

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