So many responses. Please don't get me wrong. If you are in love and adore your hubby or SO and are poor, and you are happy with your life, good for you. Why are you on this site?
I have been married to a woman I deeply love and adore. Our relationship has been exceptional. She has cancer and I am her primary care giver, by her choice. I can afford to hire someone 24 hours a day to care for her. But she wants me and I am there for her. 70% of men dump their wives who are terminally ill (interestingly, only 30% of women do). She is my priority and I hope she lives a long time. I adore my children. My son says I am his father, his business partner, his best friend, his role model. When I am with my daughter's children I turn off computer, phone and devote 100% of my attention to those grandchildren. We have a special relationship.
Concerning wealth, there is a saying I saw in a factory owned by a fried: "Money is a terrible boss; money is wonderful servant." I am not about money. But I do enjoy what it can do.
It is not a choice between love and money. It is not a choice between family and money. Some of the responses to my last blog seemed to paint the picture that having money excluded a family relationship or that my family would be happier with a good looking loser rather than this old, ugly, winner. They do not see me as old and ugly. But they do see me as intense, competitive and driven.
I believe that many young women and young men make life decisions based on superficial criteria. Statistically (and yes I know there are exceptions), women usually marry the first time for love; the second time for money. Men usually marry the first time for looks; the second time for love.
Yes to answer some other comments, there are gold diggers who pursue me. But that becomes obvious. I am looking for more. I do look for a real chemistry. It happens.
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11:51 pm Tuesday, 7th May, 2013
In my opinion, your blog touched a nerve because it came across as patronising, you mention money way too much. Reading between the very thin lines I would hazard a guess you equate money with power, this is always going to get people annoyed. Even if it was not your intention to do so and you were just making a personal observation; suggesting a woman go for money in any guise is akin to prostituting your soul. |
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10:25 am Wednesday, 8th May, 2013
Agreed, agreed, agreed with the comments above. |
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10:27 am Wednesday, 8th May, 2013
My twopenny worth from a male perspective. My overall impression is that there seems to be a lack of empathy and compassion here. Also perhaps an underlying sense of insecurity in that, despite being "successful", you need to keep reiterating your perceived merits in the public domain. |
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10:48 am Wednesday, 8th May, 2013
I am afraid that I come in with the girls on this one, they have said everything that needs to be said with one exception; why would this post be put up on a swinger's site? Maybe I missed the point but I don't think so. |
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3:22 pm Wednesday, 8th May, 2013
Eek! Senacaguy - looks like you're in the minority on this one! |
