We ask that because we've come to realise over the years that so many factors determine how 'successful' you are with swinging.
Even the term 'successful' means something different to most people.
A successful meet could be that you've ended up having unforgettable sex with someone or just that you've met a potential couple/single/group with the same mindset and hope to escalate things later.
We've found that what we determine a 'true swinger' in the sense of the word is someone where the experience of sex overides aspects that otherwise might cause the relationship to fail.
In our opinion, whether it's looks, age, personality, distance, timing, or a whole host of other considerations, 'the swing is the thing' to 'true swingers.
Looks are unimportant, as is intelligence or a rapport.
And that's not us.
Very early on we realised the chances of what we would describe as a successful meeting was remote.
Age- we prefer someone with the same sort of life experiences.
Looks- it doesn't matter whether we are attractive until judged by a couple we find attractive! We do judge and feel anyone who says they don't is fooling themselves.
Personality- Aggression, assertiveness, expectancy of sex, all are turn offs.
Distance- we'd expect a halfway meet as we can't accommodate: That causes issues of trust and logistics.
Honesty- Be who you say you are.
Discretion- though some get a kick from flirting and chatting out loud about their escapades, others squirm into a hole when this occurs: Read the room, read your meet!
Just as easily as one person may misread lack of interest, others may come on too strong. For us, etiquette is not that far removed from meeting a couple in a platonic way, until you know them more and their boundaries.
So, if chances of a successful meet was out of 100% as a barometer, we reckon ours to be less than 1%, and we're happy with that.
It might mean one hundred meals before we get our 'afters', but we reckon they'll tast that much sweeter!
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11:40 pm Tuesday, 17th August, 2021
Very true |
