Careful what you wish for.

Ok first off I'm not much of a writer so bear with me


I see a lot of women on here that have decided to give themselves over and be dominated, and that is great. I beleive everyone should explore and expand themselves sexually. It's natural and healthy, let none ever tell you differant. While many of the women seem to have an idea of what they want many have headlines such as " first timer .. come dominate me" or " new to lifestyle cum use my body" and this is all well and goodgood and I applaude and welcome the newbies i would like to give a word of caution. I would hate to see a woman trying to explore her new found sexuality and hook up with the wrong type of Dom and get hurt. A good Dom put the needs of his sub first and I return she gives her will over to him. With every Dom/Sub relationship their is a level of trust. A Dom trust that the sub will live up to the expectations and follow the rules they have laid out. The sub trust that the Dom wont hurt them anymore than they ask and will respect all boundaries.
For the newbies.. there are many differant types Dom/Sub relationships. Whether you like your partner to be a little aggressive and take control, want something more extreme or somewhere inbetween the basic rules are the same.

1 communication... Always talk to your partner first. Discuss what you want and and apprehensions or fears you may have. Decide what you are and are not comfortable doing. Your comfort level may expand later on as you move further on.
Honesty... If you want to trytry something new or are uncomfortable with something speak up.
Be flexable... Keep an open mind. If you or your partner wants to try something new talk about it and consider iif it's something you want to try. As you try new things you will find new things you like and will have better results. After all you decided to spice things up for a reason.
Safewords... It can be easy for someone to get a little carried away especially in the begining. Safewords are a good way to let your partner know if something is good or bad. Make sure it's something you wouldn't normally say during sex... Don't and stop are horrible safe words.
Now these are not complete hardfast rules or the way all Dom/Sub relationships work and I know I didn't go into great detail on the differant relationships that would take way too long. As you move deeper into the lifestyle you'll come up with your own agreements with your Dom/Sub and push the boundaries of your limits. This is more just some general advice for beginners.



So to close up I'm just gonna say have fun, stay safe and happy hunting .......

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