We had the opportunity of mingling with some of the seasoned couples in the community. We are truly honored and humbled by each of these meetups we have had during our time here so far.
On numerous occasions, we have had people messaging and asking us the question of how to connect with the best couples. Should be easy enough, but what exactly is the best way to approach another like-minded couple?
The good news is that the swinging community is a welcoming one even here in Sri Lanka, and you are halfway through as you already have one thing in common! So you don’t have to be shy. We have compiled a top-five list of important tips and strategies to help those new to the lifestyle seeking an answer to this question.
Just introduce yourselves
Yup seems simple enough right?.
You see another couple who seems interesting and who you both find appealing. Take the initiative and go introduce yourselves to them. You don’t have to use your real names if you are concern about your privacy. Only using a stage name is very common in the lifestyle. They will also most likely be interested in chatting to see where things go.
Strike up a conversation
This is where you keep your chat in a neutral state after the initial introduction. You can talk about anything, but make sure not to just jump into sex or anything too intense. It’s also important that you remember most people want to remain anonymous, so definitely avoid any prying questions that are too specific like where they work etc.
This conversation can begin just like any other first meeting conversation you have outside the lifestyle.
Bringing up the lifestyle
“So how long have you been in the lifestyle? What do you think about the lifestyle?”. Interact with the other couple and move your conversation towards the lifestyle. Talking about the swinging lifestyle can and does create another level of interesting conversation.
Ask the right questions
Your aim should be to seduce the other couple and not to be vulgar or sleazy. You want a smooth transition from flirting to sexy swinging. While you are still chatting with the other couple, respect their boundaries, their preferences & their phase. No one likes to be rushed or pushed.
Let's play
The final stage of our guide is where you finally pop that question to set up a casual meet so that you can get acquainted with the other couple. Or you might even want to set up a playdate straight from here. To be honest. we've done that twice and we've got lucky that we met two awesome couples in those meetups and we still keep in touch with them. (man the sex was great and everyone still has their memories)
Just like you are, all swingers in the community are human. Everyone has a life outside of this community and have their responsibilities. Could be work, could be kids, so have patience when setting up a date. On some occasions, finding a convenient time for both couples could be a difficult task. So keep in touch with the other couple to talk with each other and decide on a date and a venue.
We hope these tips could get you to start a perfect conversation with that special couple. Happy swinging!
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