Is sex important in a romantic relationship?

Is sex important in a romantic relationship?
Yes? No? Maybe?
There’s no one-size-fits-all answer to this.
Everyone’s different, and what’s important for some may not be at all important for others.
It ultimately depends on your personal beliefs, physical desires, and the nature of your relationship.



Sex isn’t necessary, per se
Many people have happy, fulfilling, healthy romantic relationships without having sex with their partners (or only having sex with their partners once in a while).
There are many reasons why people don’t want to, or don’t, have sex. This may include:
having a low libido (also known as “sex drive”)
living with an underlying medical condition, such as chronic pain
wanting to date for a longer period of time before having sex
being unmarried and wanting to abstain from sex before marriage
However, this doesn’t mean that the relationship will be unhealthy. And it certainly isn’t a sign that your partner doesn’t love or value you!
The bottom line? Sexual activity isn’t necessary for a healthy relationship.



But it can be important for some
For other people, sex is an important part of romantic relationships. Many people want to have a sexual connection with their romantic partner.
Sexuality exists on a spectrum. Asexual people experience little-to-no sexual attraction (and usually don’t have sex, though each person is different), while allosexual people do experience sexual attraction.
Because there’s such a variety in our feelings about sex and our capacities for sexual attraction, we all have different approaches to sex — but no approach is wrong.



There are many reasons for this
There are many reasons why sex might be an important part of your relationship. For example:
It could be an opportunity to bond with your partner.
It could be an opportunity to show your partner love and affection.
You might feel more secure in your relationship if you’re having sex often.
It could simply be pleasurable and fun.
You could be trying to become pregnant.

It could improve your self-confidence.
It could help you connect with your own body in a pleasurable way.
It could help you bond with your partner, and it could be a way of expressing love and care for them.
It can relieve stress.



This doesn’t mean that people who abstain from sex will definitely become physically ill or struggle emotionally — it just means that people who have sex may also see improvement in other areas.

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