A short story about subspace

Do you really want to learn about the lifestyle?I've been a lifestyle educator for 30 years or more. I will tell you that this is a potentially dangerous occupation that you are thinking about.That said, there are ways and things that you as a submissive can do to keep from being injured and yet enjoy the pleasures of the lifestyle. If you are being handled by a knowledgeable Dominant you can achieve the same results without pain or marks, burns or other disfigurement.


The body has a natural narcotic called endorphins. These are produced by the brain when it feels that it may sustain an injury somewhere in the body. It's called fight or flight. You may have heard of folks being badly injured in an auto accident and when asked "where does it hurt" they answer "I'm not in pain". this is the endorphins doing their job by introducing the natural narcotic into the nerves and bloodstream. in BDSM, this endorphin release is brought about by tricking the brain into thinking the body is going to be hurt. This is achieved by bondage and a whip or flogger and other devices. When the brain floods the body with the narcotic and there is no pain, the body relaxes, the eyes droop and sometimes close and the body goes into what is known as "subspace"..This defined by many submissives as a wonderful feeling that they don't want to come back from. But you see, as the body floods with the natural narcotic, you can increase the impact and they will not feel anything. This can be dangerous as an inexperienced Dom will not know when she is in space and keep whipping her when He should have stopped and let her enjoy the "high". He should hold her in his arms and work her body. Now, orgasms are the other side of the coin. A hard gut wrenching orgasm is a wonderful thing, but it does not produce the narcotic high produced by endorphins. Orgasms are more preliminary than an endorphin high. but both are extremely powerful.






An experienced Dom is able to put a woman into space, hold her there for a time and take her out of space, give her some more endorphins and orgasms to build her up and then repeat the sequence over and over again. Sometimes for hours, and achieving ten or even more orgasms. Each cycle allows her to go a little deeper. This is not dangerous from an addiction standpoint. However, it can put a strain on other body parts in the same way that hard exercise does. As with everything,moderation is the best way to achieve successful results on a consistent basis. It takes an experienced Dominant to perform this “dance” in a safe and sane manner. As a Dominant I have never experienced this, but I have worked very hard to perfect the technique over the years. Depending on how receptive she is, it can take a year or more for the Dominant to develop the skill set required for this procedure.




I hope that this diatribe has helped you understand how the body does not need hard pain to sustain an extremely pleasurable experience. There are other factors that can be introduced to allow her to heighten the experience but space does not allow me to continue at this time. Just take this away. A caring careful person can do more to satisfy a woman than a guy with a big whip and a threatening scowl.




I'm sorry that this is so long. I would shorten it if I could. Please feel free to contact me when you have questions. There is no obligation, I won't make you play with me. I just like educating prospective new members of the lifestyle before a younger, more inexperienced Dom gives her/him the wrong information and scares her/him out of a wonderful experience.Be well, be safe and good luck with your new wonderful journeyMistress Susan

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