GIVE TO RECEIVE
First of all, let me make it clear that this post has nothing to do with money or materialism in any way. I am going to share with you my opinion on how you can receive the greatest personal fulfillment and satisfaction in your intimate interactions with others. The ‘others’ may be a partner in a committed relationship, friends with benefits, couples and singles with whom you like to swing; in fact anyone that occupies a close position in your personal and private ‘behind closed doors’ life. I am writing from the point of view of a straight male, but my observations hold true for all straight, gay and group adventures.
It can be argued that the best way to get your 'right buttons' pressed is to communicate, and I cannot disagree with that. Communication is so important. We all have ideas regarding the things we would like to do with our swinging partners, so there is actually nothing wrong with letting our friends know of our wishes, and it is highly likely that you will get what you request. However, I believe there can be an even better way to achieve them.
How would you like your desires fulfilled, plus a whole lot more? You don’t have to answer that!
The key that opens the door to the biggest rewards is called giving. You have their attention, so instead of saying what you would like, ask what you can do for her (him/them). If you show thoughtfulness and give pleasure, your own desires will be satisfied many times over. On a personal note, when giving oral, the pleasure I receive and the joy I feel when she is so obviously excited and has multiple orgasms is indescribable; another big plus received simply by giving.
We all like to show our gratitude for the great experiences we have been gifted, so tend to go ‘the extra mile’ to satisfy those who have treated us so well, which, in our erotic, sexual and sensual world builds to increase our pleasure and fulfillment exponentially.
Let me explain with this material example: I have never given Ellen a birthday gift before, but I give her five euro; when it is my birthday she gives me ten. To show my gratitude, next time I give her twenty. She then responds with thirty, and so on. Money, though, is a finite resource, and we can’t go on indefinitely upping the stakes. But, once we get away from money and materialism, there are no physical limits, so the enjoyment just keeps building and getting ever greater.
It is true to say that, in the right company, we are limited only by our own imaginations, but keep in mind that it can pay dividends if we imagine what we can do for them rather than what they can do for us!
There is a further, additional, and potentially huge benefit to asking people what they would really like, because once they feel safe, secure and comfortable with you they will be prepared to confess to wishes and pleasures that they would not ordinarily admit to, and that introduces great opportunities to try new things and broaden horizons.
So, the moral of the story? if you want it all, you should first give it all!
