**No Questions Asked**

My former Dom rarely if ever, left me to question any of his motives/why he did what he did concerning our relationship.

If I was made to wait to eat until he said so, he told me it was because I had to learn patience. Just because I made the food, didn’t mean I got to eat it when I wanted to.


If I was made to lay face down with my hands behind my back, ass naked, down on cold tile of his living room floor, it was because I was being disciplined because I had forgotten a task, a chore, or just my usual simple mannerisms.


If I was being denied sex he told me it was because I am to never demand anything of him, because he will inevitably give it to me anyways.

If I received a serious spanking, it was because I NEVER EVER was to talk back to Mr.

Even during play time I was always explained why and what he was doing. I’m being blindfolded? Because he notices I get wetter when one or more of senses have been taken away. Asked not to wear makeup during role play? Because I aim to please, which usually involves my mascara running and getting into my eyes.

Even during our more extreme play time sessions I was always given an explanation. Everything from wax play, pet play, gaping, water play, electro play, extreme versions of bondage/suspension, pain tolerance, Ddlg, etc. He always explained everything.


Before we went separate ways, I had to ask him why he always did that. Why he always explained himself, even though he didn’t have to do that.

He told me, “It’s very easy to do a lot of wrong things. I could have easily broken or mentally/emotionally hurt you. Not telling you could have and would have confused you. I could tell when we first met how eager you were to be taught. You quickly dropped your closed-off, uninterested deameanor the instant I looked at you with some authority. You’re such a kind hearted and genuinely caring lady. My goals were to strengthen you. Not damage you.”


And after that, I’ve always made it a point to respectfully ask my Dom(s), or Handlers to explain why they’re doing something. Not to defy them, nor disrespect them, but because the exchange of power, in my opinion, starts with communication.

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