Is it just me or is this site completely useless?

Just my bloody luck - I've only just joined, hope I haven't wasted my money

With out a photo most folks will just ignore you.
Cock Shots will get you mostly ignored as well.

Thanks all. Cheery stuff! If I put a pic up, I might get somewhere, but chances are that even that won't make any difference... Cripes. Good luck, everyone! It's a cold world out there, evidently.

Being a Solo Bloke has Always been a difficult thing on a swingers site.

Imagine what it's like being a women on here, you can afford to ignore 100 messages a day, pick one at random, go get a screw, and then rinse and repeat.

Couples have it slightly easier, more so when meeting Other couples.

The Solo Woman has all the choice in the world on Any site when it comes to solo blokes.

More thanks to you all.

I totally get where you're coming from, Gothrocker: and while I can't imagine what it must be like for a woman on here, I do try to take that into account, so when I email someone I do try to make sure I don't just come across like a total wanker (even though, obviously, that's what I am, in a literal sense). I think the most extreme example was a woman who I emailed after reading her profile, she replied to say, "Hmm, you might be interesting, so imagine you've just knocked on my door and I've answered it wearing a little black dress. Tell me how you'd seduce me and leave nothing out." So I did. It took about two hours to write, and I had to split it into four emails because the bloody system here has some sort of word count limit on it (only they don't tell you that and you only realise if you go into your "sent" email folder and check to see if it all went through). She read all four and I never heard from her again. How long would it have taken for her to say, "Sorry, sounds like you're into different stuff to me"? For the next couple of weeks I was all worried I'd offended her, but in reality the only offence I might have caused was by being too "vanilla" in my fantasies. I wasn't calling her names or dreaming of crapping in her handbag or anything. I dunno.

Hmm. So an artily distorted picture of something that's not my face and not my cock...? Is that the general consensus? I've got one here of a tree...!

That asterisked-out bit in the post above should have read something like:

you
are
interested
in
different

etc.

Thanks David - just went and had a look at your pics, great work! I wouldn't mind my cock being on the photos, it's being recognised that would bother me and I doubt that even the women I've been in the longest of relationships with would be able to name me just from a photo of my bollocks. I have tried taking a photo of all of that but however I try to do it, it always ends up reminding me of a slug crawling out of a plate of salad for some reason. And in any case, as our Goth friend has pointed out, cock shots aren't really what a lot of women are keen to see. I tried the "camera in front of face, taking a photo in the mirror" trick too but I can't say any of them looked particularly... I think the word I'm searching for is "appetising" but after the salad reference perhaps I should try a different image. But ta for the advice anyway, will give the pics another go and see if I can come up with something that is a fair reflection of what I look like but isn't likely to scare anyone off. A big ask, but we live in hope.

On here? Much the same, with one significant exception. In real life? Greatly improved. But then, I think you might already have guessed that...

I'm a single guy on here and to be honest it's the best site I have been on . I have met some awesome people on here , singles and couples and had some of the most mindblowing sex of my life . That said I have worked hard to find those people . As a single guy you are at a massive statistical disadvantage on sites like these . I have put pictures on that I think accurately reflect me as a person ( dirty filthy bastard basically .....lol ) and I have been true to myself and what am am seeking . For every email I have had replied I have had 25 ignored . I don't get that either , but again this blog needs the input from a woman who probably gets 25 emails a day , to explain why a well written email gets ignored .

They just false predenders on here..pure skanky timewasters..think the only chance of meeting up with people with *real none deceiving profiles is goin to a social meet..yet thats like going to your local pub if anything..the choice is yours