Threesomes, foursomes and orgies: Is swinging healthy for a relationship? (22)

'You want to swing but you don't want the experience to ruin your relationship...'


Choosing the third partner or other couple is also important. Both of you should be happy with not only the gender choice (if it’s one person to make a threesome), but also who the person is. It can be very confusing if you choose to engage in sex with a friend, your neighbors or social media friends! It’s usually recommended that the first time, you choose a professional to experiment with. This is true of both swinging and a threesome. Try it out as anonymously as possible, before adding complications and entanglements. A sex worker or professional couple can recognize both your boundaries, and can remain detached from a friendship or relationship, because it is purely a sexual experience.
Above all, the most important thing is to talk with each other in detail before adding lovers you can’t un-add, and go into the experience connected, consenting, and with a clear mind, not under the influence of alcohol or drugs. The clearer your minds, and the better your communication, the less likely you’ll experience the negatives of regret, jealousy and relationship fracture. And if it goes well, it can be a very thrilling avenue of sexual variety, arousal and creativity that you share together while maintaining some sexual independence. It’s not for everyone, and if you try it, it must be something you do for you both.

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