Thought I'd give this a try.
So the essential me! I have been in the lifestyle for many years, many many successful meets along with being blessed with several long term partners with whom I played as a couple. The interesting thing is how kinks were brought up between us! I'll say with my long term partners We met on fairly vanilla platforms the best being an SMS service which didn't fleece people or have long lists of restricting rules. Usually it was a case of SMS chatting for a while then progress to either internet chatting with a webcam! Then of course a meeting for a drink etc! Of course in those days the level of openess was far greater and the number of time wasters minimal! I'll refer to the two i consider the best the ladies who I'll call R but led into longterm and kinky relationship that was fully agreeable to us as couple! R was a tomboy figure and a red head to boot, first meeting was midweek in a hotel bar where we could at least drink coffee as we had both driven some miles and couldn't consume a lot of booze! She arrived dressed somewhat conservatively and with little on show, we talked for hours until the bar closed, we walked back to our cars together and as she oened her door i mooved for a hug and a cuddle which led into a long snog! We parted agreeing to chat the following day and both set off home! Next day After work I ngot home and a message had been left asking me to call her! Which I did. we arranged to meet in a pub in her town, outside, I was surprised when she turned up in a short low cut dress and even more so when we sat down as her hem rode up exposing stocking top and suspenders!! The evening passed in a blur and she invited me back to hers, where chatting and making out led to a lot of revelations none bad but certainly enough to whet appetites. I'm not going to go into depth; one on one nothing was off limits although at first a bit scary as she wasn't using birth control. Cut the chase we enjoyed may MFM, FMF 3 sums together and the kinks evolved and we were able to discuss fantasies and make them realities as well. So how did everyone discover their kinks and make them happen?
