Our Guide for Starting Your Swinging life (A Practical Guide Part-4)

THE DONT'S OF SWINGING:


Invite someone you’re interested in, in a clean manner and leave the decision-making to them. Don’t ask them for reasons or explanations, even if it’s your partner.


Don’t carry on your sweet talking to convince someone if they’ve declined. You’d only drive a nail through your relationship.


Don’t overindulge in alcohol, smoking etc.


Don’t take someone who isn’t interested and not informed, about the actual course of the night.


Don’t consider it if your relationship isn’t strong enough, free from any issues and founded on the strong pillars of trust, honesty, and respect.


Don’t do anything that you aren’t absolutely confident and comfortable with doing.


Don’t neglect your partner or his/her preferences and pleasures! Nobody wants to feel neglected.


Try not to go astray from the guidelines and boundaries that you and your partner have consented to prior to engaging with the other couple. In case you’re thinking about breaking or bending or improvising the rules, always ask your partner during the intermission. But, be aware that you’ll be placing them in a clumsy situation that may make them feel like they’re under severe pressure.


Don’t do anything which may discourage your partner or him/her feeling disempowered. As a matter of fact, you are expected to ensure that your partner feels strengthened, empowered and confident and allowed to explore their sexual desires. This implies you have to support and encourage your partner during the session. Also, you have to assure them repeatedly that you’re comfortable with and enjoying what they’re doing.


Try not to whisper in the ear of one of the other couple or on the off chance that you do be ready to be challenged by your partner later with respect to what the whispering was about. This lifestyle is something that ought to have no secrets or mysteries in between the couples.


Try not to reach the other couple or one of the other couple independently, without agreeing to the parameters with your partner. Jealousy issues are frequently and potentially bubbling away ceaselessly and can emerge to the surface at any minute. Energy and willingness are normally hailed but sometimes restraint, attentiveness, and diplomacy are essential too.


Try not to boast about your sexual triumphs to other people. Discretion is the key, as another couple wouldn’t like to hear you brag about different couples you’ve played with. Furthermore, it’s commonly a mood killer for the vast majority.


Don’t argue with your partner before another couple you’re considering to play with. This will possibly slaughter any chemistry or excitement. In the event that you need to discuss, debate or clear up something, at that point talk in private far from the other couple. This is particularly the situation if you need to consider breaking any predefined standards or limits you’d agreed upon.


Never offend another couple in any way. You certainly don’t want to cause issues in their relationship or leave them feeling disappointed.


Don't make too many exceptions and assumptions as the best part of a swap is trying new things.


Don’t give negative feedback because remember that people can take your feedback very personal.


Don't embarrass each other during the adventure as it torments your relationship.


FINALLY,


If any of you react harshly to any of this, then it means “never ask again”. Wait for a year, and ask again. If the reaction is the same, ask to recognize that the fantasy ours and not to belittle it. Patience is must in this lifestyle.


So, now everyone is aware of do's and don't's. Hope you include us in your fantasy and Happy swinging.

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