Ways to Spice up your sex with Role Play
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!There are many ways to do this, but one of the most popular is sexual role play. There are many scenarios you can go for. Key is you both want to do it . If one of you is unhappy and you force it, that’s perverted. When looking at DBSM Safe, Sensual and Consensual (SSC) should be your guide.
Cos Play Use Settings, Costumes and Props:
A great way to pump up the excitement is Dress for it, cos play. Use room settings, costumes and sexual aids Come on, if you are pretending to be a doctor or nurse, doing in a suburban bedroom ain’t the best!
Your nurse’s uniform or doctor’s coat will look odd with a wardrobe in the background. Use sheets to cover intrusive objects, as white is a good colour for medical role-play. De personalise the space as much as possible
Same goes if your into a serviceman fantasy, a setting with fluffy cushions may not hit the right note. Or you’re into role playing cell mate sex. The objective is that the guard does not discover you. You get the picture be appropriate
Tie and Tease
Sexy maid tied and tease or a fireman tied to your bed is wonderfully erotic, however a word of caution. Chose your restrains carefully, as this is supposed to be pleasurable. No good tying someone so tight it blunts their pleasure means a further exploration into restraint is unlikely to happen. Both parties
Your Character:
As important as the space you are dominating is ‘Stay in Character’ Once you have the partner purring with delight, or whatever sounds you are expecting, changing to Ben from Marketing or Carol from dispatch is a real fantasy killer.
Performing:
Part of becoming better in your role play is ‘acting the part’. Over time you should character should develop a range of desires that are kept in the role play realm and are different from your day to day life. Improvisation will help you develop your requirements allowing you and your partners to experience a deeper sense of reality– thereby bringing your imagination to life!
Time is your friend.
Never ever rush! You are role playing a fantasy, you are not going for a wham, bam thank you session. There is a place for quick sex but not in most role play fantasies. To fully explore your fantasy, give it time to develop so both of you get the most out of it. Just about all role play’s have a rhythm, they have their own natural time.
It’s not unusual for the dominant one to feel things are going a tad quickly. Take a time out! This does wonders for mutual enjoyment.
The danger of going too fast is losing control. As the dominant partner you should always be in control.
Safe words
These are a must, having a set of safe words will help keep the submissive safe, and keep the fantasy alive. I find 3 words work best. From this is fine you can go further, next a word meaning I’m close to my threshold, finally a stop now word.
The After-show.
All good doms want a review afterwards. Take the role play into start middle and end. By examining these with your partner you are in a place to make this better for both of you next time. The Doms who think this is wham, bam and out, will never understand the collaborative nature of a Dom-Sub relationship. They are either just sadists or usually men who think that’s how to treat a partner.
Your After-Show review, should cover all bases after all this should be a mutually helpful relationship and feedback is essential to an improved experience.
Constructive feedback is part of the glue that keeps couples together. It helps you grow and your role plays to develop.
Please share your experiences with others in the comments as I live feedback
BDSM: Sexual Roleplay: Domination, Submission, Erotica
