sexy woman for hubby

Hubby doesn't know about this. I'm not really sure if this is the best place but there seems to be a lot of sexy people here who might be able to help. In a nutshell, I don't want sex any more! I hardly ever think about sex and prefer to just do crosswords and puzzles or look at telly. I'm trying to find a sexy woman or women to give hubby a good seeing to, to make him happy. He doesn't think he could go with another woman without feeling guilty or that he's cheating on me but I've assured him I do not mind as long as it's just for sex and not a "relationship" because everything else is pretty good. I think if he can have proper sex maybe once or twice a week, it should make our relationship even better as we won't have the sex thing to deal with.

I do have some medical problems which don't help but my desires have always been on the low side and now they are non existent. Unfortunately hubby has always had a very high sex drive and given the chance would probably have sex at least once a day so things have always been a little difficult to say the least.

Over the years hubby has been very patient and understanding but when we had sex, I was only really interested in the kissing n cuddling and when it came to entry I wanted him to get it over with quickly but he likes to make it last and loves to kiss my pussy until I'm gushing and even occasionally (in the past) squirting. I do actually love him going down on me and know that he gets a lot of pleasure from this. I've had some really big orgasms from this but more recently I'm finding that the anticipation of painful entry seems to override my enjoyment of his efforts. He's very tactile and considerate and an absolute "gentleman" but I don't like giving head mainly because his manhood is thick and it makes my jaw ache but I also think that it's unnatural!

Entry is painful but occasionally once it's in it does feel good but his manhood is hot, throbbing and big and I can't take it for much more than a few minutes and I have to get him to take it out and then finish him by hand or quite often I suck his nipples (drives him wild) while he finishes by hand and squirts on me.

That's how our sex life has been a for a good few years and I know it leaves him frustrated but he accepts that my medical problems are not my fault.

He often jokes that "the perfect wife is someone who is a cordon bleu chef in the kitchen and a complete whore in the bedroom",I'm neither, I don't really like cooking much and basically I'm completely useless in bed. Although hubby has always gone out of his way to make sure I am getting pleasure, it's something I don't crave for and something I can manage quite well without but I love and care for this man so much and don't want to lose him, he would do anything for me to make me happy so I want to do something to make him happy.

He's basically a shy bloke and doesn't feel comfortable looking for other women and he doesn't think he could go with another woman and have sex without some sort of spark and doesn't want to "use" a woman for his own satisfaction so the situation seems a bit hopeless, he's depressed and has started drinking heavily and at the rate he's going he'll pickle his liver and then I'll be alone and have no one cuddle. I'm depressed because I don't want to drive him away and I don't want him to be unhappy. I want him to cut down on drinking but he needs sex and I can't give him what he needs. If I could give him head a couple of times a week he'd probably be ok but I just can't manage it, I've tried, really tried.

There has got to be some sexy women out there that love sex and who aren't getting enough at home but I don't want to be involved in arranging meets for
hubby and preferably don't even want to know when/if he goes with another woman so how do I get hubby to meet sexy women and not feel guilty about getting some happiness back in his life! Why is life so shit. I've given birth to 3 (wonderful) kids and have been sterilised so I don't need to do sex any more, why can't hubby take up fishing or something. He's done his duty, he's fathered 3 kids why does he still want sex? Looking at some of the profiles on this site, I realise it's me that has a problem(s) and hubby is just a red blooded man that (still) needs/wants to get his end away! What's the solution, give him bromide?

I know that some of the younger ones may think that people over 50 don't have sex but hubby says he isn't dead yet!

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