Loving Your Partner and First Timer Butterflies With Adding a Third

"There is a first for everything," as the saying goes.
When your loving partner has had an erotic dream about you, the wife, with another woman, he wants to tell you how hot it was, but doesn't know how you'll react to the thought. He may not throw it out there for fear of being humiliated or rejected. Why not just ask him if he's ever had thoughts of adding another person to the bedroom? (If it has been a curiosity of yours.)
Be ready for the answer.
Be open minded, ask each other questions, ask about boundaries, and be very truthful of how far you are willing to go.
There is no room for jealousy if you have a loving, solid relationship. (It's not for everyone.)
Take things one step at a time.
If you are thinking of adding a third, role play on your own first, watch threesomes online together, send naughty stories and scenarios back and forth to each other to get comfortable with the idea. If it's not for you, say so. It doesn't mean your partner is going to step out on you. They may just need a little more time. I needed more time. But the seed was planted. I grew up in a hard core religious family. The stigma was stopping me from being curious with the same sex. I was taught it was bad and dirty, and I could go to hell in a hand basket. I changed my way of thinking because I am curious.
When you are ready and have ironed out the do's and do nots with each other. Go on a search for the right person on the "same page" as you.
Keep your partner in the loop at all times, let them read your messages back and forth to the 3rd, and let them have input as well.
Nothing is as hot as seeing your partners face light up, reading naughty senarios back and forth with the choice of a 3rd.
Our first time is coming up and this is what we have learned so far.
This whole new world to us. We both have butterflies of anticipation, but we are ready.
More to come after our experience.
Not the details, just the thoughts racing through our minds and what the experience has done to our relationship.
C&M

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