Your Wife Might Not Be Rejecting Your Fantasy–She Just Might Be Rejecting The Way You Brought It Up

Most South asian males are not even aware of their partner's fantasies so it would be extremely hard to imagine them being successful in sharing their wife.

I have been asked by many husbands, who are eager to try out either threesomes or cuckolding experiences as to how to initiate the subject with their wives. They often wonder how it would be to take it up with their partner. Most husbands fear outright rejection; however the biggest underlying fear is that their wives would consider them to be less manly due to the fact that they want to involve another male in the relationship. The short answer is that the response of the lady would depend on how well both the partners are integrated emotionally. The assurance between the partners about the stability of the relationship between them would be the primary factor. if there are any doubts or insecurities in the relationship between husband and wife , you can take it for granted that the woman would never allow a threesome or cuckolding experience. Even if she is sexually unsatisfied in the relationship she will not try to seek the sexual favors from another male. If at all she chooses to seek sexual favors from other males, the husband would be blissfully out of loop. So the stability of relationship and the emotional bonding between the husband and wife will the starting point of any threesome or cuckold experience. Hence it would be necessary for the husband to assure his wife not only in words but also by his action that their relationship is stable and entry of another male in the relationship is in NO WAY going to alter their relationship. If you have been able to reach this level of understanding with your wife then your chances of actualizing your fantasy would be bright. I have come across many couples where both the husband and wife are open to the idea but lack the strength of relationship and emotional connect to carry it through.

A second important criterion is how you and your wife view your sexual life. Is it mutually satisfying? Does it have an openness to enjoy and experiment? Are you both imaginative and open to new ideas to enrich your sex life? Do you share your fantasies? Are you both aware of each other’s sexual fantasies? Have you ever made an effort to turn any of your wife’s fantasies to reality? If answer to these questions is yes then you can take the next step otherwise you clearly need to work on sexual relationship with your wife. If she is not imaginative and open with you then how would you expect her to open with another totally strange male? It would be premature to try to involve her in threesome/cuckolding if she is not sure of her sexuality and her fantasies.
Another important aspect is the self-worth. Do you and your wife feel that you are still attractive to opposite sex? Most South asin couples tend to try threesome/cuckolding after some years of marriage, after chil-dren are born. The ladies generally get a feeling that they are not sexually attractive after the birth of chil-dren because of altered body shapes. The frequency and intensity of domestic sex reduce over a period of time and they also add to the feeling of lower self worth in sexual terms. The ladies would need to be really assured time and again of their sexual desirability and their ability to fire male passion. Such assurance would lead to higher self-worth and confidence which would make it easier for the female to experiment. Buttressing this feeling of self worth has to be a continuous process. Words play a very important role here but as always your actions have more meaning. So just plan it out and let it roll.

Most importantly you should never be in a hurry with the idea. It would be foolhardy to push the idea strongly. The best course is a soft and slow seduction of mind and as usual the body will follow. Your wife has to be completely sure of your unequivocal support and love in all situations. She has to be sure of your ability to handle any potential situation in a threesome. The wife has to feel that it’s her pleasure and not just her husband’s pleasure which is being sought. If you are confident that you and your wife are emotionally synced then only you should make an attempt to initiate discussion on actualizing threesome/cuckolding experience with reasonably good chance of success.
Only if you are sure of these aspects, you can be successful in having active involvement of your wife.

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