Don’t bottle up your emotions

One of the big problems in swinging is when people start competing with the other spouse. When they feel jealousy or insecurity because of their counterpart in the other couple. How you deal with this jealousy is what will determine your success in swinging. If you start competing and go on the dark side with intentions to prove a point that you are better then this friendship will break very quickly. The only way to deal with this is to be open about it with your spouse. Tell her or him exactly what you are feeling. Tell them you are not comfortable and feeling insecure and then deal with it together. Either you take time off and back away or you slow down the pace or another very simple and strangely successful technique is to let go of ego and speak about it amongst all four. You will be shocked how perfectly that works or how perfectly it ends things. If someone tells you they are feeling jealous of you cos they think you are so hot and amazing .. what will be your reaction? If you are a good person, you will have humility and humbleness and you will immediately comfort the other person by saying - No way! Look at you! You are so much more sexy and prettier and I was feeling the same about you! This creates an instant bond .. there is trust and friendship which breaks all negative emotions. And if you are a conceited ass, you will behave more arrogant and then the other couple will anyway back off and not move ahead. Either ways, it a good result for all! Don’t bottle up your emotions… speak about them!

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