Our guide for Single Guys in the Lifestyle

Single guys in the lifestyle:

- Discretion is key. Don't discuss, share Names, Contact info or Photos with ANYONE - even with other lifestylers unless you have permission from the couple or single lady to do so.

- Don't be pushy. Even though you might be bored, lonely, horny or all of the above, couples and single ladies have lives to live and will chat you you when it is convenient in their schedules to do so. Don't be a whiney bitch because they don't have free hours to chat to you. Be thankful when they do have time for you.

- DO NOT, read that carefully: DO NOT send cock pics or videos of you wanking without being asked to do so. Cock pics do not turn women on - no matter how beautiful, big or talented you think it is.
Sending a cock pic to a lady is like a cat bringing a dead mouse to it's owner. You can see the cat is super proud of himself for his achievement, but the owner will throw the mouse away without ever wanting to touch it, inspect it or play with it. The recipient might also be totally disgusted!
DO NOT SEND UNSOLICITED COCK PICS!
The lady or her husband will ask you to send a cock pic or video when/if the lady is in the mood to see it.

- No matter how beautiful and sexy you find the lady and how horny you are - treat the lady with respect at all times. She is not a wh0re because she is in the lifestyle. She is in the lifestyle because she is a gorgeous woman in touch with her sexuality, wants and needs. She knows what she wants and if you are lucky, you get to spend some time in her company (whether that is alone or in the presence of her husband/partner).

- If you don't find the lady attractive or if she is not the right age for your preferences - decline politely without being an asshole about it. A simple "thank you for your time but the sexual chemitry is not there for me, but I do hope you find someone who will fulfill your needs" or something to that effect will do.

- Single guys are notorious for being unreliable - don't add to that statistics. Because of other unreliable single guys, your journey in this lifestyle will be extremely difficult.
Don't be a no-show. If you cannot make it to a scheduled meeting/event or party just do the decent thing and send a message to say something has come up and you cannot make it. DO NOT send this message at/after the time you were supposed to arrive. Send it with enough time for them to change their plans or make alternative arrangements.
And DO NOT make up lame excuses. Just say "Sorry but I cannot make it. Is it possible to reschedule the date/time?". The amount of lame outright lies that single guys come up with as excuses are a big joke in the lifestyle community. If you cannot give the true reason - don't make one up.

- Failure to launch. We get it. You are human with emotions and sometimes doubts or insecurities. If you are lucky enough to be invited by a lady or couple to spend a few hours of fantastic sex, use every opportunity to pleasure the lady.
Especially the first date should not be about your pleaure, but about the lady's pleasure.
If for some reason you have psyched yourself out and you cannot get your cock hard - don't panic. The more you panic about it, the less likely it is that you will get hard.
Just take a breath and remember that you have 10 fingers and a tongue that can give the lady an orgasm or two. You can even ask her if she has a favorite dildo/vibrator that you can use on her.
It has happened to plenty of guys before, and the ones who made an impression were invited back for a second try even if they could not rise to the occasion. If however you panic and cause the total event to be a miserable failure you won't ever get a second chance.

- Dutch courage... if you have to get drunk/high to get the courage to go ahead with the date, you have failed already. No woman wants a drunk, incohesive guy with a semi-hard dick to have sex with her. She knows it won't be mind-blowing.
A few drinks is fine, but know when to slow down or you won't have a successful evening.

- Recommendations. If you are a good, decent, reliable guy who knows how to please a lady, you might be recommend to other couples or single ladies. Don't mess up your chances. This is the BEST way to get ahead in the lifestyle.

- Cleanliness. Shave/trim/wax your cock and balls before a playdate - especially if they mention that they prefer clean shaven guys. No lady wants to floss her teeth while she is giving you a BJ. If you don't manscape, let them know before the playdate so that the lady can decide if she is comfortable to go ahead. If you keep it as a surprise you might not make it past the part where you take your pants off.
Shower/bath right before a meeting (not 6 hours before a lot can happen with body odor in that time). And for God's sake, wash your ass thoroughly too. Nothing worse for a lady when she gives a BJ and there are funky/sweaty smells.... eeeuwwwww. That might be the shortest BJ in your history.

If you are nervous and might sweat a bit, take some wetwipes with you and clean thoroughly before the playing begins - or if it is really bad ask her/them if you can grab a quick shower - the lady will be thankful. (But PLEASE don't show up at each play-date expecting to use their shower before you can play). You are supposed to show up prepared.

- Condoms. For Fucks Sake - throw them away after you've used them. Nothing more off-putting than for someone to pick up used condoms after a play-date. Trust us - you won't be invited back. If there is no bin, collect it/them and flush them down the toilet or take them with you and discard of them back at your place. DO NOT LEAVE THEM LAYING AROUND AFTER YOU HAVE LEFT.

You are there for their pleasure, not the other way around. Accept that if you enter into the lifestyle couples and single ladies only need/want you to fulfill their sexual needs the same eay they use sex toys. Your needs/wants are not a priority for them. If you are not happy with that, please rather go out and find a girlfriend who can treat you like you are her god and get your needs fulfilled that way. The lifestyle is not about dating/romance but about couples and single ladies who wants to fulfill their sexual pleasures.

- Solo Play with wifes. If a couple tells you in their communication that they don't play separately DO NOT try and convince/ask her/them if you can see her alone without the husband. If that is what they are into, they will tell you. Most couples however only play together as a couple. Their profile on the sites will tell you if they are into solo play.

- Read between the lines. If you contact a couple you will be able to pick up from the tone of the messages whether they want to do heavy sexting/chatting. If you don't get that vibe from them then accept that they will ask you questions/allow you to ask questions etc to get a feel for synergies. If they are happy they will decide to go ahead or not.
Even if the chat runs dead it does not mean that they are not interested. They have their own lives to live and it might be weeks/months before they contact you again to set up meeting if thats what they want.
Don't send them continuous messages if you don't get a reply. If you made the right impression they will contact you again.

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