It's difficult to make a judgement on whether or not you are good looking in the general sense of the term. I imagine some people know they are good looking if they are popular and have no trouble attracting others sexually.
From my history of girlfriends and my own opinion, I would guess that I am not ugly but perhaps an acquired taste????
After observing many people over the years, I have found that there is one thing more powerful in attracting the opposite sex (or indeed same sex) than having good looks - the gift of the gab. I am more than accomplished in communicating through the written word but I am horrendous at talking in person. This extends to all social contact, not just in situations when trying to attract women (in my case).
I am married and, although very happy, there is not a great deal of tactile affection and we haven't had sex in over five years. As you can imagine and without trying to sound crass, I'm bursting for a shag!
However, I have no idea of how to initiate such situations without sounding creepy or embarrasing. When I see women on the street, they look at me as if I've just insulted them. Do I ooze desperation? Do women exist who just want a shag or is it just pornographic mythology? Do those 'less than hunky' middle-aged men who are shagging 20 year olds situations in porn vids actually happen in the real world?
I'm baffled and bursting.
