Use Costumes and Props
Another way to enhance scenes is to use costumes and props. If you are doing a medical scene, having the Dominant wear a white coat and use an actual stethoscope, these real-life details can enhance the scene and make the fantasy feel more real. You can even decorate the “set” and collect props that will enhance the feel of the scene in the future. D/s scenes can have the same dynamic fun of a Halloween party – and costumes, wigs, outfits and of course toys can make everything feel more real and thus more satisfying. Our fantasies are detailed – and we can begin to bring those details over time into our real life!
Staying in character
Staying in character is another point that is important. Sometimes we have a hard time taking ourselves seriously and it can be easy to fall out of focus during a scene. Staying in character when this happens allows their partner, (who perhaps may have a laughing fit from being tickled, for example), allows the scene to get back on track more quickly and remove distractions so that you can get back to business.Also developing your character over time can make the scenes grow more mature over time. Perhaps you develop a fake accent for your character or decide that he/she always has a limp. This way your partner can begin to feel that they can deepen their character or begin to change the way they want to present to you in a scene.
Don’t Be Rushing
Another good point to remember is to let the scene move forward in its own time. Rushing a scene or trying to get it where you “think” it needs to be is a sure way to end it quickly. Let the scene breathe. It is ok to have “down-‐time” in the scene, or silence. Maybe you as a Dominant might sense you are moving too fast and need to take a break. Perhaps you need to initiate some long-‐slow breathing exercises to relax your partner if they are getting near their limit. Slowing down is always a good idea and will allow both of you to catch-‐up with each other and get the timing right. Of course, you will have times when things spiral out-‐of-‐control – and if it feels right – go for it!
As the scene progresses, a lot of subs use the Green/Yellow/Red Light method of communication. Say you are being flogged. The submissive can say “green light” to keep it going strong at the force they’re experiencing, “yellow light” will lighten it up, and “red light” will stop the flogging, but not necessarily the scene. Of course, a sub should ALWAYS use their safe-‐word if they are experiencing any distress or concerns that cannot be addressed in character, in the scene.
Review the Scene
Finally, after the scene is over, reviewing the scene with a perspective on “Beginning, Middle and End” is always a good idea to improve, correct and modify future scenes so that it becomes more enjoyable for everyone in the future. The Dominant, in an effort to care for the submissive, should have some “survey questions” and make sure the experience was positive and the activities did not cross a line for the submissive. A submissive is not “topping from the bottom” if they are giving constructive feedback as to what they experienced and what they hope to experience in the future. This is, after all, a mutually beneficial relationship and feedback is essential to providing a better experience in the future.
Part of successful scenes in BDSM is becoming a little bit of an actor. Of course, you can always really become a major actor and improve and mature your characters over time. One of my “Dom characters” has a whole array of desires that I do not normally have in real life! Improvisation can help you explore your desires more completely and allow you and your partners to experience a deeper sense of reality– thereby bringing your imagination to life!
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Ooohhh, Professor. I loved the ,lecture, Would wrapping my knees behind your ears be an appropriate thank you? My, I am feeling so enlightened. |
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Mate..thank you so much for your erudite explanation and enlightening me about BDSM. I have always had a non specific Buddhist leaning and now it all makes sense. I've laboured under the misconception that 'Dom' is more about control and punishment which has put me off. But now I realise it's so much deeper than that. It has an almost Zen like quality where both participants are actually achieving the same enjoyment. And the breathing is so important too. Cheers mate. Just need a willing partner now :)) |
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