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Starting of Our Swinging life (Beginner’s guide)

8:17 am Friday, 17th April, 2020

Since many couples are struggling to start this life (many contact us regarding swinging and then disappear with that idea too), thought of sharing some of our's and our friends' experience, to start your swinging life as well. 

First thing you need is to convince your wife or partner regarding your desires, specially about swinging. Swinging is not about changing your partners and just having sex. Same room same partner (SRSP) would be a good start for a new couple. 

Our first advice is, don’t expect too much from your first meet up and don’t talk about things you are going to do during meet up with your wife or partner. That will be a turn off. Don’t try to talk about full swap initially or even soft swap. So plan a meetup in a public place and see where it get you. Our advice is it’s always good to meet up with a bit experienced couple first (Who agrees to SRSP) rather than with a new couple and better go with reviews. Experienced couples have good understanding about your needs and experience with new and nervous couples. We have met few couples who nearly stopped swinging due to their first experience was unpleasant (we too do have some bad casual experience and heard some stories of people blackmailing you for money). 
So the important thing is to select a suitable and understanding couple and meet with them casually if your partner agrees. This may take one or two casual meet ups (first for a coffee and then for a dinner) and therefore if you are bit nervous and need time to settle, it is good to talk it with the other couple. Because many people don't have much time for few casual meet ups and don't have that much of patience. However if you can plan a weekend together away from your homes, that will do the trick. 

Many people are afraid to talk to their partner about swinging, and try to get into pants of other persons partner. It will take time and lot of efforts to talk about this idea with your partner (in my case, mine was supportive and she was the one found this site), specially with the social and cultural restrictions in our country.

My wife was pretty jealous, when thinking of seeing me with another women. However she likes to see other people naked and doing sex in front of us and also pretty much into exhibitionism (will write about this later). So we decided to give it a try with SRSP and met a good couple for a chat. We went there only for a chat and drink and things got out of hand after a few drinks. Only thing we knew was we were naked and ended up doing a soft-swap that day. I learned that my wife is a cuckold (if there is a female version) lover  and is bi-curious (she was pretty much against lesbianism) that day. So you never know your interests until you get your first experiences. 
So don’t push your partner into anything and be patient. You’ll never know what will happen at the end. Make your first swinging experience something you remember for lifetime and not the last.  😉



Comments
12:24 pm Saturday, 18th April, 2020

This is very true and we explained. SRSP is the way forward. Fully agree and thanks for sharing this valuable advise. 

5:44 am Tuesday, 21st April, 2020

Who brought up the idea of swinging? OR has it been brought up and How long have you been thinking about wanting to swing andor discussing it with your SO?
🙂

8:33 am Tuesday, 21st April, 2020

Thank you: These is grate article, please do more, it really help to know the reality, than the porn movie things. Most of them not share genuine feelings and idea.

9:28 am Tuesday, 21st April, 2020

My husband is the same, he gets very jealous but it turns me on

12:56 am Saturday, 2nd May, 2020

Great, clear and tue explanations, good job guys, like to plan srsp 

4:24 pm Monday, 11th May, 2020

We're completely new to swinging and looking forward to our first SRSP experience to start this lifestyle as advised by many veterans. Excellent article👍

4:23 am Tuesday, 12th May, 2020

It's good to see that many new couples find this helpful.. Gad to help. Happy swinging... ,😊😊😊

5:47 pm Wednesday, 13th May, 2020

SRSP is the way forward. Fully agreed 

8:23 pm Friday, 29th May, 2020

it's very helpfull

9:35 am Wednesday, 3rd June, 2020

Thanks for advice.. 

4:26 am Tuesday, 9th June, 2020

Thanks for info. Helpful words 

1:37 pm Sunday, 5th July, 2020

very helpful, many people here do not have patience or decency

12:26 pm Sunday, 11th October, 2020

Nice elaboration about your first experience. Indeed what you say is true. We have past that phase now and know how to deal with situations 

3:28 am Friday, 27th November, 2020

That's  great, I can only hope I find a woman with an open mind.

6:08 am Tuesday, 13th September, 2022

How do you actually chat in this site? Messaging is barred behind a paywall. Can you help me understand this?

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