Starting of Our Swinging life (Beginner’s guide)

Since many couples are struggling to start this life (many contact us regarding swinging and then disappear with that idea too), thought of sharing some of our's and our friends' experience, to start your swinging life as well. 

First thing you need is to convince your wife or partner regarding your desires, specially about swinging. Swinging is not about changing your partners and just having sex. Same room same partner (SRSP) would be a good start for a new couple. 

Our first advice is, don’t expect too much from your first meet up and don’t talk about things you are going to do during meet up with your wife or partner. That will be a turn off. Don’t try to talk about full swap initially or even soft swap. So plan a meetup in a public place and see where it get you. Our advice is it’s always good to meet up with a bit experienced couple first (Who agrees to SRSP) rather than with a new couple and better go with reviews. Experienced couples have good understanding about your needs and experience with new and nervous couples. We have met few couples who nearly stopped swinging due to their first experience was unpleasant (we too do have some bad casual experience and heard some stories of people blackmailing you for money). 
So the important thing is to select a suitable and understanding couple and meet with them casually if your partner agrees. This may take one or two casual meet ups (first for a coffee and then for a dinner) and therefore if you are bit nervous and need time to settle, it is good to talk it with the other couple. Because many people don't have much time for few casual meet ups and don't have that much of patience. However if you can plan a weekend together away from your homes, that will do the trick. 

Many people are afraid to talk to their partner about swinging, and try to get into pants of other persons partner. It will take time and lot of efforts to talk about this idea with your partner (in my case, mine was supportive and she was the one found this site), specially with the social and cultural restrictions in our country.

My wife was pretty jealous, when thinking of seeing me with another women. However she likes to see other people naked and doing sex in front of us and also pretty much into exhibitionism (will write about this later). So we decided to give it a try with SRSP and met a good couple for a chat. We went there only for a chat and drink and things got out of hand after a few drinks. Only thing we knew was we were naked and ended up doing a soft-swap that day. I learned that my wife is a cuckold (if there is a female version) lover  and is bi-curious (she was pretty much against lesbianism) that day. So you never know your interests until you get your first experiences. 
So don’t push your partner into anything and be patient. You’ll never know what will happen at the end. Make your first swinging experience something you remember for lifetime and not the last.  😉

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