3:34 pm Monday, 9th March, 2020
Swinging is about a lot more than just having sex with strangers. Swingers are groups of people looking to share themselves and their partners with other like-minded people. Everything is consensual, everything is done in good order, and the atmosphere is not one of frenzied fucking (although that is not off the menu) but rather creating a space where you can feel safe enough to explore your fantasies and your kinks knowing you won’t be judged.
1. What’s Behind That Door?
Unlike what you might think based on the type of porn you enjoy swingers are part of a community, not a bunch of “sluts” that you can use and abuse as you please. Far from its darker days of underground venues and backroom residential gathering most swinger clubs are actual clubs – some top-notch and others little more casual - with bars, various rooms catering to sexual appetites and shower facilities so you can have your fun and go home looking fresh and satisfied.
While there are Dark Rooms and group orgy areas many couples or smaller groups will move off to private room together to play with one another there. In fact, there are couples who simply want to have sex with one another in a group setting without other members inserting themselves into their coupling.
2. Swinger Club Etiquette
While you may gain access to a swinger club this does mean that everyone you lay your eyes on is going to be available for you to lay your hands on. First off there may very likely be a contract you need to sign as a first-timer. This generally covers non-disclosure of what you see to ensure the privacy of the clubs’ patrons is protected.
There are also some general house rules. These cover basics like should a couple or group be having sex with their room door open feel free to watch and entertain yourself, your eyes are free to drink it all in. However, you may only join if you are invited in. Also, any personal rules and agreements entered into before sex are treated like iron-clad contracts, no anal means no anal, no gagging means no gagging. Don’t agree thinking you can change their minds or push the issue during sex. Mutual respect lies at the core of the swinger experience.
The best place to meet a potential group of friends is at the bar, where people mingle and get to know one another before deciding whether or not to play together. Since it will require the agreement of both parties in the case of being picked up by a couple don’t be offended if you don’t get the nod.
This is about having fun and meeting both the needs and fantasies of all parties, besides once you get into the swing of things, you’ll be politely declining your share of trysts as well.
3. Five Ways To Get The Most Out Of These Clubs
- Don’t rush your first experience. Take the time to enjoy the experience, watch a few couples, chat to people at the bar, get a feel for how this club operates and how their members interact. Once you know some players and feel comfortable with them it will be far easier to slip into the sheets together.
- Don’t become sullen. Complaining moan about a couple that turns you down is going to instantly make you less attractive to potential playmates. Swinging is about adults who mutually decide to share their bodies with one another, this type of moaning makes you come across and childish and uninteresting.
- Don’t limit yourself to sexual preconceptions. Use this time to explore other body types, other genders or even other roles during sex. Usually the brash fuck-em hard type? Why not take a more submissive role with a male-female couple and see how you feel about being their plaything?
- Don’t cross personal boundaries. When you agree to have group sex everyone will be very clear on their boundaries, no anal, must wear a condom etc. Respect these boundaries, don’t force the issue or try slipping off the condom mid-shag. This will only gain you enmity with the group and get you removed from the club – permanently.
- Don’t forget your partner. If you’re swinging with your partner be sure to give them as much time and attention as possible. The allure of new bodies and sensations is great but going home with someone who feels used and neglected with sour the experience.
4. Good Sex Isn’t Porn Sex
Take the pressure off yourself to be a sex god that everyone in the rooms stops and stares at as you perform some dexterous act pleasuring yourself and three others at the same time. Be open to connecting with another couple at first, or just having sex with your partner in and amongst other couples who want to the experience of group sex without the intrusion of strangers.
Be honest about what you need to be satisfied and your partners will do the same. With a clear understanding of what you all want from the experience, it is easy to give and receive that thing that will have you climaxing like a porn star without the pressure to perform like one.
5. Where To Begin Your Swing
Whether you’re a regular at partner swapping and swinging parties or are looking for like-minded people to share your first experience with, the community here at our site is a great place to start. Don’t be shy, a lot of people find group sex very erotic and are more than happy to share their experiences, their partners and their bodies with you – just ask.
