4:36 pm Wednesday, 4th October, 2017
We all fall on a spectrum of vanilla to kinky whenSatis it comes to our sexual appetites. One partner may be perfectly happy with missionary sex every single time, while the other might need ball gags and blindfolds to get off.
So what's the secret to a great sex life? Well, there might not be one magic solution to having a flawless carnal connection, but there is something that can assure you a better sex life, and that's compatibility.
To celebrate National Boyfriend Day check out our guide to having fun finding the satisfaction and fulfillment you seek in the bedroom with your next potential partner.
You’ve Each Already Explored Your Sexuality On Your Own
It’s hard to know what you’re looking for in a partner unless you’ve had some experience under your belt. You don’t need to have slept with a ton of people, but having a couple of points of reference can help you get a sense of your compatibility with new people. It is also important to have experience with yourself, by exploring masturbation, your fantasies, and your relationship with your body. Being single is a great time to focus on your relationship with your own sexuality.
You Have Similar Sex Drives
If you are synced up on when and how often you want to have sex, you are going to be one lucky, compatible couple. Having similar sex drives is essential to having a satisfying sex life. Of course, you both might not agree on an aggressive 17 fucks-a-day program (although that would be great), but being in a general agreement about how frequently you'd like to get it on makes for a happier relationship.
You Enjoy The Same Kind Of Sex
Is sex an epic exploration of romance that brings you and your partner closer, or is it an opportunity to execute some S&M-like fantasies? Are you adventurous in the sack, or do you prefer a more classic routine? Will you try anything once, or do you have strict boundaries when it comes to experimentation? These are important questions to first ask yourself, and then to ask your to be bf, it is important you guys have similar wants and expectations.
They’re Good At Communicating
Just like in any aspect of a relationship, communication is essential when it comes to sex. Knowing what your partner likes, feels, thinks and wants is key to having a happy and horny sex life — and vice versa, of course! It's a combination of being able to speak up during the act as well as knowing how to talk about sex outside of the bedroom. Are you both happy with the current state of your sexual affairs, or is one of you feeling unsatisfied? It is important to be able to have an open and honest discussion about it.
They Make An Effort
Keeping your sex life hot over the course of the years to come (or even your entire lifetime!) takes a LOT of effort! It doesn’t just happen naturally. Perhaps the single most important characteristic to look for in a sexual partner is their willingness to put effort into keeping your sex life interesting, romantic, and intimate. Even in the beginning, do they ask what you like? Do they suggest new positions?
You Have The Same Beliefs On Monogamy
Whether you're a one and only type of gal, or being polyamorous is more your thing, it's important you express these beliefs to your boyfriend in the making and find out if he wants the same level of commitment. Having similar definitions of relationships and cheating means you won't hurt each other with extra curricular activities that one of you believes is no big deal, but the other considers a betrayal. The "are we exclusive" talk contributes to mutual understanding and trust, both of which lead to much better sexcapades.
What do you look for in a potential partner to know if you are sexually compatible? We would love to hear your advice so let us know in the comments below.
