11:02 am Tuesday, 30th May, 2017
Feeling a bit randy but don’t have a fuck buddy on hand? Do you have a burning fantasy you want to confess but are not brave enough to try?
Well we have the solution. In honour of National Penpal Day this Thursday, check out our naughty guide on how to have an orgasmic cybersex session from the comfort of your own home.
Dress to impress.
Tell your virtual fuck buddy that you are wearing either a sexy outfit, or nothing at all, and that you are incredibly turned on and ready to go. Cyber sex is not about what you are actually doing, it is about what you would love to be doing (and wearing) at the time. It's not much of a turn on to hear the truth, that you're sitting at your home computer, wearing your unicorn onesie, and watching re-runs of bad tv shows.
Set the scene.
When you are getting ready for your virtual play, give some thought to it. Do you want to be rolling around on a sandy beach? Going at it in an 18th century horse-drawn cart, just like they do in the erotic novels? Or even tied up and tickled with the tip of a carrot? Don’t just surprise your partner with your kinky demands, as that might not be something they’re into. Discuss your kinks prior to you heavy typing session.
Specify each step.
Don't jump into cyber sex with "Now you’re in me and going at it." That's not going to get juices flowing for anyone, and it certainly would get you nowhere if you were hooking up in person. Start slowly, virtually undress each other, go for the erogenous zones and indulge in foreplay. Imagine what it takes for you to get warmed up, and go with it.
Smart is sexy.
When it really starts getting hot and heavy, please check your spelling before you send anything, i.e.Oh baby, you have such a big coke. Oh fork me harder! Another note - make it filthy - we’re all adults here, no need to address your foo foo as...well… your foo foo.
Make it mutual.
If you happen to get over-excited and climax before the cyber sex conversation is actually over, return the favor. If your cyber buddy has taken the time and energy to get you hot, they are probably just as ready to go and to see what you have for them. Let them tell you what they want and give it to them good.
Sometimes it's just not happening.
If you're not feeling it, don’t feel pressured into having cybersex with them again. Let them know in the best way that you can. It's not very polite to tell them you're doing your nails or you need to wash your hair tonight. Nobody needs to suffer bad cybersex twice.
It can be really hot to share your kinky needs with a stranger and even hotter to get each other off with just your imagination. Let us know in the comments below if you have ever had a steamy cyber session or if you want to give it a go?
