12:00 pm Monday, 6th March, 2017
Anal sex is one of the most thrilling and intimate acts we can perform in our sexual exploration, but it still remains one of the most misunderstood and taboo practices. Our back door is a sensitive orifice with thousands of mind-blowing pleasure points that can deliver both pleasure and pain.
There is a key to maximizing the pleasure. Here’s how to up your chances of loving the butt game.
Solo Expedition
Settle down for some very intimate self-exploration! Most of us start our sexual journeys by fiddling with our clits, so why should anal be any different? Next time you masturbate, slowly stroke and rub the area around your back door with a well-lubed finger or sex toy. Experiment by sliding your finger or toy slightly inside and remember to breathe, you might be surprised by how much you like it...
Keep It Clean
Cleaning your anus is the best way to get started on your anal adventure. Set the mood by enjoying a bath or shower together, washing and stimulating your naked body and buttocks is the perfect way to relax and build trust for a night of pushing your booty play boundaries.
Foreplay Games
Don’t go straight for penetration, start with foreplay to get your juices flowing. One of the sexiest ways to get you truly turned on is to start with a pre-anal massage. Have your partner massage your back and work their way down to your buttocks. This helps you unwind and heighten sensation around your anus. You should be highly aroused before going there, and having an orgasm (or three) beforehand never hurt either.
Lube, Glorious Lube
When it comes to anal sex, you can never EVER have too much lube. Your anus doesn't produce natural lubrication the way your vagina does, so no need to be shy about applying generously. It will make the initial penetration much easier and less painful for you. We suggest silicone based, it work best in terms of the feel-good factor and making sure the condom doesn’t break.
Getting Stuck In
Anal sex should always be a slow sexy build up, It is important for him to ease his penis in gradually inch by inch and pulling out each time until the muscles relax and ‘accept’ him. – it’s not just a tight hole for devouring like all the porn sites suggest!
Perfect Position
Start in a position you can relax in, just like vaginal sex, it's important to explore your options and see what feels best for you. You can get in doggy-style, which allows you to control the speed and depth of penetration as he slowly thrusts into you, or missionary with your partner on top, place a pillow under your butt to raise your hips as he penetrates your ass.
Double The Pleasure
One of the surefire ways to enjoy the experience is to simultaneously be receiving, ahem, additional stimulation. Have him use his other hand to rub your clit or, once you're really into it, use a vibrator either on your clitoris or for vaginal penetration for a full feeling.
Don’t Double Dip
Never go from anal play to vaginal play, whether its fingers, a penis or toys - don't let them stray. He should never take his penis out of your anus and put it into your vagina, this can lead to serious infections.
Call It Quits
If it hurts or you feel weird about it, you’re allowed to call the game, just like in every sex act. It's OK if it's not for you. But yay if it is! Give yourself points for trying something new, and don't hesitate to try it again if the first time you just weren't feeling it.
Butt play can not only be super fun but can open the doors to a whole new world of orgasmic sensations that you didn't know existed. How many of you have tried some back door activities? Or would love to try it? Let us know in the comments.
