1:15 pm Thursday, 4th February, 2016
You don't need to head to a Love Dungeon, or engage in an unusual fetish to spice up your sex life. With a bit of imagination, you can experience some scorching hot sex in other ways! All you need to do is step into somebody else's shoes for an evening. So, whether you want a fireman, a nurse, or Princess Leia in her gold bikini, here are 10 cheeky roleplaying tips to get you started.
1 - Prepare your scenario
To indulge in a role playing game, you might decide to plan the scenario down to the finest details. By knowing your role, you may feel surer of yourself. You might even want to prepare some dialogue in advance.
2 - Improvise
Some people prefer to make up a whole storyline but with a bit of practice, you'll feel freer and more comfortable straying from what you had initially planned.
3 - Discuss things beforehand
Talk with your partner about the things you're not keen on. It's just a game; you should never feel manipulated or forced into doing something you're not comfortable with.
4 - Find a compromise
Which game should you choose? One that appeals to both of you. That won't necessarily be easy since people don't all have the same erotic imagination. Ideally, try to find a game that turns you both on.
5 - Pay attention to your partner's desires
The things your partner fantasises or dreams about could be the smallest of details that aren't important for you but are essential for him.
6 - Don't put pressure on yourself
Never think that you have to be at the top of your game sexually. The aim is to have some fun together.
7 - Don't spread yourself too thinly
You don't have to try out all the games. If you find one that you both really like, you can repeat it again and again with all sorts of variations.
8 - Consider using accessories and props
Go all out with your role playing and wear relevant items of clothing, go to specific places, put up appropriate decorations, etc. But you could also keep things simple and role play at home in your usual clothes. What counts is stimulating your imagination. To do that, accessories can be useful but not essential!
9 - Agree on your sexy talk
You want to hear him tell you he's going to tear off your shirt and instead he says he's going to rip open your blouse... blouse?! Nothing ruins a mood like an unsexy sentence. Agree on banned, unsexy words in advance. If you hate the sound of "gentle, tender kisses" and you'd rather be "gorged on and ravished" then now is the time to say so.
10 - Have a safe word
No matter what game you're playing, you always need to have an agreed safe word. Like an emergency stop button this will bring the game to an abrupt halt whenever you need. Make sure it's a word you wouldn't commonly use. 'BAKED BEANS', 'BINGO', or 'MARGARET THATCHER' - anything that kills the mood is perfect.
Whatever yours or your partner's roleplay fantasy is, from policewoman to Man of Steel Superhero, or simply pretending you’ve only just met, get dressed up, get in the mood and give it a go. Roleplay is a great way of mixing up your sex life - plus, you get to play our your ultimate fantasies.
