11:43 am Monday, 2nd March, 2015
You see it in the movies, it’s so many peoples’ ideal scenario-sex without the emotional attachment of a relationship. Someone you can just call up when you’re horny and have no drama or messy emotions involved. Is it easier said than done though? We have some rules for operating a friends with benefits set-up.
Set Some Ground Rules
What can you both expect on a regular basis? So how often will you be meeting and what is too much? What interaction will you have with one another? Will any contact be strictly sex-related or are you able to chat outside of your bedroom antics?
Dates Are No-Nos
Don’t do anything remotely date-like for instance meeting for a coffee or catching a movie. No matter how innocent and casual you see it, chances are eventually feelings will get involved for one or both people the more these meetings happen. Never introduce them to your friends or family as this is going to complicate things massively and will most likely be awkward to explain what they are to you. Things will become especially difficult should your family or friends actually like them and bug you about committing to them. Save yourself the hassle!
Emotions Are Out Of The Question
If you let emotions get involved and bond with your fuck-buddy more than you’re meant to, chances are you’re going to get jealous should you see them with someone else. But since there’s no real relationship, you have no right to get jealous! If you’re doing the friends with benefits thing right, you should both be free to see whoever else you want.
Friends With Benefits Doesn’t Work With Current Friends
Friends with benefits works best when you’re not actually friends before the casual relationship is conceived. If you’re already mates previous to this you have bonded with them and you may find things get a bit messy. You also risk losing them as a buddy should things actually go wrong or at least the friendship wouldn’t be the same as it was prior to your sexual relationship.
Separate Real Relationship Actions From Casual Ones
Don’t show affection to your fuck-buddy, this is for people in loving relationships and will only confuse them. If you want cuddles, flirtiness and someone to spend time with then it sounds like you want a real relationship and not a casual one.
As we mentioned, for many people a casual relationship is easier on paper than it is in practice but if you’re both able to follow these rules, we’re sure that a no strings relationship could work out for you and you will thoroughly enjoy being a friend with benefits without any complications down the line.
